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2011-08-01T10:49:00.000-07:00

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Becoming Aware of Ourselves in Health Post by: Heather

2011-07-24T08:03:00.001-07:00

Becoming Aware of Ourselves in Health

Health Awareness is the Key to Fight Illnesses

It is important for people to attention to their health, we hear this time and time again. We tend to prioritize other things when prioritizing our physically health and nutrition is just as important. Through any health issue, it is not yet too late to make up and take care of your health. Luckily, there are treatments and dietary measures that individuals can take to help the patients boost their immune system and to fight illness. Nutrition and alternative therapy can ultimately make an individual feel more comfortable and set a balanced lifestyle to minimize pain or complications that come along with those dealing with serious health issues such as breast cancer, mesothelioma, diabetes and more.

While conventional medicine may play a large role in treating serious diseases such as cancer, you may be considering alternative treatments as well. For centuries, people have been turning to the world around us for medicinal plants and healing treatments. While herbs and other complementary treatments may not be the end all to cure your illness, increased life expectancy and quality of life is likely.

Complementary medicine can encompass a variety of different treatments and is generally used alongside more conventional treatments to achieve maximum results from both. When used alone instead of conventional medicine, these treatments are considered alternative medicine. Herbs, diets, and special foods may be recommended to bring the body into a more balanced state. Reflexology and chiropractic can help relax the body and help it operate more efficiently. Yoga, meditation, and hypnosis can help the mind take more control over the body’s functions.

One of the most popular complementary treatments today is acupuncture, which can help reduce pain and discomfort. Massage is also popular for pain relief, as well as for easing stress and anxiety. However, massage should be avoided when blood counts are low, and incision areas should not be massaged at all. Organic foods, juicing, and algae-based drinks are becoming increasingly popular in recent years. Although complementary cancer treatments offer hope, you need to do as much research about your chosen options as you would any other treatment you’re considering before you make any final decisions.

If you’re interested in learning more about complementary organic treatments, it is essential that you talk to your doctor first. Not all organic cancer treatments are risk-free, and not all can be safely combined with traditional treatments.

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25 Q & A Sites on Mental Illness

2011-07-07T08:00:00.001-07:00

Learning about the varieties of mental illnesses could take a lifetime, especially if you focus on treatments and causes. By tapping into resources such as wikis or question and answer sites, a student or psychologist can learn about nuances within specific mental illnesses that may not be found in textbooks or medical journals. The following Q&A sites focus on mental health or illness in general, for specific audiences and for professionals.
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2011-06-28T09:21:00.000-07:00

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Be Aware

2011-06-28T08:54:00.000-07:00

At times people will wonder why their luck is so awful or how something ill could have become a part of their life. When this happens it is often too arduous to undo damage that could have been prevented. If one allows too many little things to be dismissed they may be setting themselves up for big events that could tragically affect their lives.

The little things should always be taken care of when possible and in a timely manner. The variety of scenarios is endless, but a few topics that come to mind are a person’s health (mental and physical), legal issues or a clean and happy home. If there is something which one could be doing now to prevent unhappiness later, then those issues should be addressed.

What seems like a trivial task now could turn into an important task later. Do what needs to be done. Ask the questions that need to be asked. Practice the behaviors which promote a healthy mental and physical outcome later. Acknowledge all that needs to be addressed. Treat all the little things as important things. Take care of yourself now and reap the benefits later.

Do what you can to make your life more enjoyable. This includes doing things that may not be enjoyable. One may be surprised, that on some levels, they can control their futures by just paying attention to the details in the present. Be aware and satisfy the present in order to support your future.

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Love Quotes: 9 quotes about Love

2011-06-25T08:37:00.001-07:00

1. There is only one happiness in life—to love and be loved. – Geaorge Sands

2. What lies behind us, and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

3. Love is as much of an object as an obsession, everybody wants it, everybody seeks it, but few ever achieve it, those who do will cherish it, be lost in it, and among all, never… never forget it. – Curtis Judalet

4. Women wish to be loved not because they are pretty, or good, or well bred, or graceful, or intelligent, but because they are themselves. – Henri Frederic Amiel

5. The Closer I’m bound in love to you, the closer I am to free. = Robert G Ingersoll

6. Love is the only way to grasp another human being in the innermost core of his personality. –Viktor E. Frankl

7. When you are in love you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams. – Dr Seuss

8. "You can’t make someone love you, all you can do is be someone who can be loved, the rest is up to the person to realize your worth." - Unknown

9. Love – bittersweet, irrepressible – loosens my limbs and I tremble. – Sappho

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How to Know if You’re Being Real

2011-06-24T09:16:00.001-07:00

Often times, one may find themselves lost in their own reality. This might be the product of an identity crisis or it may be the product of something less sinister, like not being real. When one is being real, they are being honest with themselves about their beliefs. They are sincere with the reality they are living.

An honest person has nothing to hide. They are not ashamed of the life that they lead, and most of all they do not get consumed in the lives that others lead. The reason they lead a life of contentment is because their reality is everyone’s reality. They do what they love, they give their love to the ones they choose and there is nothing that will alter their sense of being. A person who is completely honest with their self doesn’t feel the need to share or hide the details of their person.

Think about all that you enjoy, think about what you could live without. The opinion about these choices and desires should only matter if they are your own. Once a person can accept themselves they can put it all out there and not care what anyone else thinks. They will not judge another person’s lifestyle, because they do not have the desire to control it.

When a person is real they are in control of their lives and their destiny. It is who you chose to be that defines your present and your future. If you want an honest life filled with happiness and acceptance then you must be accepting of yourself.

A person that does not accept themselves feels that they have a reason to hide their lives from others. Everyone has made at least one mistake during their lives. Existence shouldn’t be about whom you want to be, what you’re going to be, but it should be about who you are.

Being real is about being yourself – your true self. And once you can accept you for who you are you can be real. You won’t be at risk of having an identity crisis, and peace of mind will be yours to own. Lie to no one, be honest with all. Live the life you were meant to lead and define your existence with who you currently are.

Don’t ignore negativity when it crosses your path, deal with it. Adjust what needs to be adjusted and move on with your essence. Happiness is accepting who you are and loving yourself in spite of the parts you do not like. Once you can accept yourself, the parts of your being that are implausible will change without effort. The opinions of others will have less meaning and you will be able to identify with the most spiritual part of your soul.

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Self-Destructive and Self-Punishment

2011-06-21T07:35:00.001-07:00

Perhaps you are not a victim or self-punishment or self-destructive behaviors, perhaps you are? Many would say this type of behavior doesn’t make sense. Why bother with it, you are only hurting yourself and maybe the ones that love you? Maybe you feel like you don’t have a choice or perhaps you aren’t even aware that you punish yourself by repeatedly doing the same self-destructive behaviors over and over again. You do have a choice.

If you are on this path which causes repetitious negativity in your life there is a reason for it, and you have the power to make it stop. Become aware of your surroundings, the people you interact with and most importantly your choices. Before you involve yourself in another situation which will promote self-punishment remember that thought is free. By asking yourself why and how before you get involved you may be preventing negativity from coming into your world.

You have the power to make choices and change choices. Think before you act. If it is a person that you are punishing yourself with, ask why? Ultimately the reasoning behind such behaviors makes next to no sense. Even if you find that it does make sense, in an abstract way, you need to ask yourself if you deserve this unhappiness. You don’t. Change how you think, make better choices and decide your fate before someone decides it for you.

If it isn’t going to make you happy or better said if it is going to cause your self-destructive patterns to emerge then you shouldn’t get involved. Some believe that happiness is a gift, but happiness is a choice. Look for the positive in everything, open your mind and know that what is in front of you is not your only choice. You have the power to have your world complete you. Your life does not have to be sad and destructive. Whatever you do, always remember to be the best you that you can be. If you have to change your pattern(s) or switch out your company then that is what you do. You deserve happiness and contentment and they deserve you.

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Self-confidence is Belief

2011-06-19T06:42:00.001-07:00

Believing in your self is essential to a successful accomplishment. If you want to achieve and accomplish you will need motivation. Your motivation will come from your self-confidence. Self-confidence is belief. In order to believe, you must respect yourself and your ideas. If you have any doubts you need to diminish them or you will eventually beat your hopes and dreams into failure.

It is nice to have others believe in your dreams, but it is most important to believe in them yourself. Before you attempt to accomplish, consider your wants. Be sure that what you are going after is what you really want. Ask yourself if you really want what you think you want and will you enjoy the most part of your journey to success.

Your desire to accomplish has to be greater than the want. In other words just wanting something to happen isn’t enough; you must also want to make it happen; you must believe that you can make it happen. You must believe in yourself.

Iron out the pros and the cons of your dreams. Analyze the work involved in what it will take to make your dreams a success. Once you are confident that you are going after what you really want, and you are sure that you are ready to take on the journey; your belief in yourself will grow. Your belief in your strengths and your self-confidence will bloom.

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What Did They Just Say?

2011-06-17T07:00:00.001-07:00

Everyone is entitled to have a bad moment in their life, but holding onto a foul mood is about as good as a particle of dust sitting on a side table. If someone or something has annoyed you there is no reason that should ruin your day or even your hour, for that matter.

Let it go, release the negative energy instead of hanging onto it. Some humans have the tendency to allow one sentence to affect more of their life than it should. Whatever it was that got under your skin, remind yourself the statement was only a couple of words and it is not worth thinking about and analyzing repeatedly.

Negativity has a way of growing, if it has permission, and suddenly you have allowed a short sentence to affect your entire way of thinking for a period of time. This makes no sense. Give no phrase, sentence, or paragraph that much power. Words are how one communicates, and words will always play a role in a person’s life, but not all words have to be powerful.

The mood of your day does not have to be based off the way someone else’s words made you feel. As a matter of fact, some people may say things without thought or emotion and you are affected negatively without good reason. Accept that not everything that we hear is going to be a ray of sunshine and chose to not base your thinking pattern off of someone else’s words. You can choose to not react, even if your reactions are only in your mind.

Don’t allow words to eat away at your soul. You are strong and a sentence should not affect your time. Think about what you want to consider, but do not dwell on negativity. Open your heart to forgiving and forgetting. It is not worth it to allow negativity to fester. You times are valuable, enjoy them all and do not allow words to change your hourly disposition. You happiness hasn’t left; it resides within your soul. Encourage it to grow and do not allow negativity to take over your happiness.

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Personal Attacks and Self-Control

2011-06-14T06:51:00.001-07:00

If you are under a personal attack of any kind you may need to make more of an effort than simply just ignoring the attacker. You may have to use all of your resources, face the attacker head on and defend what you stand for and what you believe in. You most important resource, in this type of situation, is your self-control.

It is unfortunate, that in order to protect our souls from attacks, we must stand up and verbally defend ourselves. Ideally, no anger will be present. It is important to keep your cool, refrain from judging and say only what needs to be said. You do not want to fall into the trap of becoming an attacker yourself – remember to act and not to react. State only the facts, say what needs to be said and make sure your words are clean, concise and under control.

Once you have said what needs to be said, step back and take no further part in the negative, energy sucking situation that will damage your soul. Staying away from arguments is a principle, which I like to embrace. I am referring to the moments where a part of your world is threatened, and by not acting more damage will come in to play. This is not just about beliefs, it is about protection and it is the only time in life that one should willfully participate in such an exhausting role.

Avoid the negative when possible. Don’t spend any time worrying about what they think of you. Do not act out of anger or frustration. Use your head instead of your heart when you are forced to be a part of a soul sucking situation. Always act and never react. When possible steer clear of spiritually exhausting situations. In this type of scenario your self-control is your most important resource; go forward with it in front of you.

There is a serenity within us; give it permission to grow and you will inspire your self-control.

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Let the Soul Lead the Mind

2011-06-12T07:34:00.001-07:00

If you are feeling like you need to get it together, it is probably due to an imbalance of emotion. Often times, emotions affect how a person acts and that is not always a bad thing. However, it is not always a good thing either, especially if the emotions are causing self-destructive or negative behaviors.

The best way to get your emotions back into balance is to deal with them directly. You do this by acknowledging what you are feeling and why you are feeling that way. Sometimes the why is not always apparent, but by acknowledging them you are gaining control of your reality, and that is the first step. Be honest with yourself.

Depending on which negative emotion you are being affected by most you need to address accordingly. If you know the why, you need to again ask yourself another question. Why are you allowing your emotions to control your spirit? Your spirit is the master of your domain and if you do not take control of emotions, they will take control of you.

Deny negative emotions to be a part of your mental life. Emotions will always be there, they are a part of life. The amount of power you pour into emotions is up to you. You may have to start by using baby steps and then gradually taking huge dominant steps. How your day turns out is up to you. How you chose to embrace each situation, and which emotions you allow to become dominant is within your power.

The negative thoughts may come into your mind, but you do not have to keep them there. You do not have to dwell on them, fed them or do anything which will enhance their power. Allow the negative thoughts to slip away. When the positive thoughts arrive, hold on to them and encourage them to grow. Everything you think and feel is within in the range of control. Sometimes we cannot control which thoughts decided to pop into our minds, but we can control which thoughts we permit to stay.

If you feel as though your life is spiraling out of control, you have the power to stop the spiral. There is a strong spirit which resides within your human body, it is you – it is what makes you who you are. The mental life that often attempts to confuse one with emotions is just part of the creative and complex human existence. You strength lies within your soul and your spirit. It is the part of you that will make your life more manageable. Get in touch with it. It is the most precious part of your existence and your spirit is stronger than your mind. Let your soul influence your mind instead of allowing your mind to influence your spirit.

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Do What You Love

2011-06-10T11:15:00.001-07:00

The best advice I have ever followed is to find what you love and then do it. If you love art, reading, writing, creating, running or something I have failed to mention then you should live your life that way. Doing what you loathe day in and day out is suffering. Those that suffer will never achieve their greatest happiness.

There are a lot of different ways to make things happen. The best way is to find what works for you and your lifestyle and make it happen. Self- doubt may be telling you that there is no way, but that is self-doubt speaking and that is not true reasoning. Remember there is a way to do what you love, and you may have to make an effort to find the way, but it does exist.

It may take some time to change your lifestyle. This time requires patience on your part. Happiness is a gift from the higher power. If you have traveled far off the path of happiness you may have to maneuver with effort until you manage to walk peacefully on your path of happiness again.

If there is a different life you wish to live, it is in your power to live that lifestyle. You are in control of your actions and your reactions. If you want the world to be your oasis, it can be. With the right amount of determination anything is possible. Do what you can, change takes time, and time takes patience. Set a goal, reach for it and make your dreams a reality. Only you can make it happen, so make it happen.

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Is Procrastination a Problem?

2011-06-09T10:29:00.001-07:00

When you don’t want to do something it is wise to ask yourself why. Laziness has the potential to result in boredom. If something needs done, and you are completely capable of doing it then you should. It only makes sense and it is not that big a deal.

Once you confront procrastination, procrastination becomes weak. Confrontation conquers procrastination. Do you feel powerful yet? … I didn’t think, but the truth is you must ask yourself why you are avoiding a task that could be completed and then forgotten. Holding on to the idea that something needs completed and not completing it makes no sense.

My motto is, just get it over with; spend no time pouting or ignoring the inevitable. Once you get out of the rut and accomplish you will find that it wasn’t nearly as painful as the routine of procrastination. You are capable; you are strong and there is no reason to avoid doing something just because you don’t want to.

Do what needs to be done and have fun with life. Life is too short and valuable to spend your energy fighting with it. Once you are finished, you will find that you can feel accomplished and this may work in your favor by giving you more motivation to accomplish another task. Find your motivation and conquer procrastination, it’s your life, live it well.

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Twisted Deceptions

2011-06-08T07:46:00.001-07:00

Deception is a tricky little action that can cause things to either go in your favor for the moment or deception has the potential to counteract and cause all of your potential hopes and dreams to fail. The funny thing about deception is that it is easy to master at times, but it can bite the hand that feeds it just as quickly.

My outlook on deception is that it will either fool or harm the original deceiver in the long run. It may appear as though nothing bad can happen when one chooses to lie and deceive, but this simply isn’t the case. When a person lies they are creating a false reality, leading others to believe what isn’t the truth and this is a negative experience.

Negativity and deception are partners. When they are practiced someone eventually ends up living part of a lie. Living a lie isn’t good for your soul or anyone else’s soul. People throughout history have gone to extremes creating ways to make lying and deception okay. They say; I was merely stretching the truth or it was only a white lie. A lie is a lie no matter which way it is stretched or how sugar coated it becomes. Deception is not honesty.

If you are not honest with yourself and others your life will become twisted. The truth can be potentially lost. If you find yourself in a position, where your back is up against the wall, and lying seems the only way to protect emotions then it is time to get creative. Instead of deception try an alternative method. You could change the subject or answer the question with a question. You could also refrain from saying anything at all.

When you deceive others you are deceiving yourself. Honesty is a positive characteristic, and deception is not. Deception will eventually result in negativity. If you want to be honesty with yourself then aim to be honest with others.

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Satisfy Yourself

2011-06-07T12:14:00.001-07:00

If there is a reoccurring behavior that annoys you, and you do nothing about it, you are only hurting yourself. Annoying situations can sometimes be rectified with a simple email or phone call. If the culprit knows nothing of your issue then the issue cannot be fixed.

Holding your tongue is a nice idea when it is appropriate. If you are needlessly being annoyed, then perhaps now is the time to do something about it. Take control of the negative situation, do your part and release the negative emotions that it was causing in your life.

When you are not satisfied; there is a reason for it. If it is in your power to make the first step then you should definitely make that step. It will aim the situation in the right direction which will affect your happiness.

Even if the annoying situation is never rectified you will still be able to say that you have done your part in making an effort to resolve the issue. There is no reason that makes sense for you to be unhappy. This is your life, today is your day; do what you can to make it satisfying.

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Be True to Yourself

2011-06-06T06:38:00.001-07:00

If you are really going to be true to your soul then you must be true to yourself. One needs to honest with oneself in order to define their truest being. If you are not honest with yourself about who you are and where you came from then you are living a lie.

It is ironic that the most judgmental of persons rarely take a look at themselves. Even non-judgmental people have the potential to live in a life filled with make believe. It is a sad display of person when one lies to others about whom they are and where they came from. It’s even sadder when they lie to themselves. All of this dishonesty leads to an identity crisis.

During the identity crisis a person loses sight of who they were meant to be. What they could have used to make the world a better place is hidden, misplaced and often denied by the individual. One might lie to themselves and put on a pseudo persona for the world, because they are embarrassed and hurt about the truth behind their identities.

If you know someone whose life is like this, you may understand that, it is hard to help them (possibly impossible). The best thing that you can do is to put on an accepting mask and if opportunity ever arises then direct them to the right path. Most of the time, the individual that is living in denial of their true identity will not accept help, for they believe that they do not need it. Just remember that none of us are God and sometimes it is best to allow situations to work out with natural order.

If you have awoke this morning and realized that you have been a victim of your own self-destruction (destroying your soul by living a lie) then acknowledge this without judgment towards yourself. Forgive yourself and commit to living in truth. Commit to being a part of your true person, acknowledge your history and accept it without harming other’s with the knowledge. You might be pleasantly surprised that most people will accept this new direction with opened arms, because the lies have been fooling no one but you.

Before you reach out and grace other’s with this new found knowledge absorb it yourself. Spend some time alone to think about who you are, what you were meant to be and what direction your life is headed. If you are living a lie, and a life altering event is about to occur, then it is wise to be your true self around the ones that will be most affected. Be honest with yourself about your past and your present. Blame no one, forgive those that need to be forgiven and take credit for some of the mistakes that have happened in your life. Stop playing the part of the victim and admit that you are as human as the rest of the world. Love yourself and love others.

Honesty is a virtue for a reason. Be honest with yourself when your life feels off-kilter. Do not lie to yourself about the past or the present. Do not be the victim and cause an identity crisis for your soul. Embrace who you are and offer the part of you that was meant to be offered to the world. Everyone is meant to be somebody, be the somebody you were meant to be.

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Don’t Submit / Be Assertive

2011-06-05T06:48:00.001-07:00

See if you are compatible with self-motivation, if you aren’t we aim to get you there, so don’t worry.

1. Are you assertive enough?

2. How well do you relate to other people?

3. Do you demean yourself to please other people?

4. Do you allow people to offend you?

5. Are you afraid to look dumb if you do something that needs to be done?

6. Do you offer your opinions even when it’s different from what others think are best?

7. Do you embarrass easily?

If you have answered yes to any of these questions you need to fix your self-esteem and your ability to be assertive. You can do this by focusing on one situation at a time. Pick one area that you would like to change and increase your ability to be assertive. Concentrate on the issue. Practice responding in an assertive manner before the situation happens. See yourself being assertive and then be assertive. See other’s admiring your self-esteem and your ability to be who you are without remorse.

Take this challenge one step at a time. Focus on one area and master it, then move forward until you have mastered all problem areas. Practice saying “no”. Say no with confidence, stay calm while you are saying it. Do not lose control of yourself.

Remember you are a self-confident, strong and powerful person; you only have to tap into that part of you. You can say no and be assertive when you need too. Once you have mastered your self-confidence and assertiveness then you will be able to control your motivation. You will feel better about moving forward with your goals and you will do them with assurance.

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Motivational and Self-Esteem Exercise

2011-06-04T06:16:00.001-07:00

Grab a pen and sheet of paper you are about to improve your self-esteem.

Put a date on the top of the sheet of paper. Sign your name next to the date.

Now write down these positive words, modify as needed. Refrain from using anything negative, everything you write must focus on promoting your self-esteem. If it doesn’t elevate your confidence level then DON’T write it down.

1. I am strong.

2. I am able.

3. I am capable.

4. I won’t take no for an answer. If No knocks at my door, I will improvise.

5. I make sense; my dreams make sense.

6. I will achieve, because I can achieve.

7. I will succeed; I will not stop until I do.

8. Change comes easy for me.

9. No one can stop me from becoming except me.

10. I will not give up.

11. I will become.

12. I can and I will manage my time wisely.

13. I can and will make my dreams happen.

14. I will do something to promote my achievements today.

Next, you should laminate your motivational exercise. If you don’t have any access to lamination then just use clear tape. Cover the entire list with tape. Leave no section uncovered; remember this exercise was designed to elevate your self-confidence, self-esteem and promote your motivation.

Hang the list up, look at it daily and read it daily. If you don’t have a good place to hang your motivational and self-esteem list then place it somewhere you will see it every day. Read the list every single day, several times a day. This list is the most important list you have ever made. Use it wisely and treat it with care.

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Believing is Half the Battle

2011-06-03T10:54:00.000-07:00

Life is a box of chocolates. Okay it’s not really, but maybe you could make it one. Life is full of surprises. Every time you laugh, feel good or achieve that could be considered the creamy center. How you present your life could be the packaging or the box. You see, what I’m really expressing is that life is what you make it.

If you want your life to be filled with happiness, achievements, motivation or creamy centers, you have to make it that way. Your life is a gift and you should treat it like one. Your persona is also a gift that you should be giving to others.

How you choose to perceive life is your choice. If you want to search out the negative in everything, you could, but I highly suggest searching out the positive. Be thankful for what you have, be grateful for possibilities and acknowledge that if you don’t have something it is likely that your way of thinking deserves the credit.

Change yourself and you will change the world, at least your world and everyone in it. You can make the world a brighter place just by being in it. That’s right you are number one, you are the reason you wake each morning. Use your motivation and use your smile and don’t underestimate them.

Never take the easy way out of any situation. Every opportunity presented before you could have a hidden surprise, remember the creamy center, well it could be right in front of you hiding. If you skip the harder path, you might miss it. In plain words, enjoy every part of your life. Live it to the fullest, no one is going to achieve your goals for you.

The lack of self-confidence is no excuse. You are strong, you are able and you can accomplish. There really is no good excuse for not becoming a better person. You are able to laugh, so you should laugh. There is enough negativity in life for everyone, but is there enough of you in the world for everyone? The answer is probably not. Treat everyone you know and everyone you meet with kindness and pleasantries. Touch lives in a good way.

There’s a reward for being kind-hearted and aiming to make the world a better place and that reward is good feeling. That good feeling you get from focusing on happiness is likely to elevate a low self-esteem, your confidence and even your motivation. That’s right; I said it will elevate your motivation. Why? Well simply put, when you feel good you feel more energy. When you have more energy you get things done.

Don’t live in the past; don’t dwell on what could have been. Feeling sorry for yourself is only another excuse for not moving forward with your life. Sometimes life hurts, take that hurt and use it in a positive way. For example, if you have dealt with an ugly event in life then express to other’s what you have learned. A ton of people have lived a life with a not so perfect childhood and a ton of people have gotten over it, so you can too.

You already have the resources to turn your life into a box of chocolates; the only thing left to do is use the resources. Hope is not an emotion that lets your down. Use that emotion. Search out reasons to become a happier, more successful person and you will find them. Don’t just look in one spot, search in all the places that you can and find the creamy surprise center. You can do anything you set your mind too. It’s all about believing. If you can believe, you have already won half the battle.

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Self-Punishment or Self-Love?

2011-06-02T07:49:00.000-07:00

It doesn’t make sense to keep returning the place of unhappiness. Just like substance abuse can be a form of a slow suicide returning to unhappiness can be a form of self-punishment. If it makes one unhappy then why does one keep returning to it?

You are the only person who is able to control your actions. You have the power to abandon unhappy situations. The power to seek out joy and pleasant situations is in you. If it’s bad then get away and don’t go back. It sounds pretty simple, but I realize that if it’s a lifestyle changing can become rather difficult. You have to believe in yourself and respect your most inner desires.

Unhappiness and depression are both states of the mind, just the same as joy and elation. If you have the power to punish your soul with depression and discontentment then you certainly have the power to grace your soul with positivity and pleasantness.

It is not fair to your or your mind that you should continue to engage in negativity. Unhappiness is negativity. If depression is your demon go where depression cannot live. Depression cannot dwell in a world filled with positivity.

Submerse your being into a world where happiness and contentment are most dominant. If you know no such world; make it your mission to find it. Start within, take the control back and refuse to accept depression and unhappiness. Clean up your mind, do something you enjoy and then do it again.

Do not settle for less than what you deserve. If you are finding yourself in a position which causes great unhappiness it is time to pack your bags and move on. Every minute of your everyday belongs to you; it’s what you own and no one else should be granted the power to take that away from you. Do not give anyone that type of power.

You deserve to be happy, so make an effort to steer clear of unhappiness. You were put on this earth to be happy and you owe it to yourself to follow through. Your happiness should not be the secret that you hide from your soul.

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Mature Your Soul and Your Spirit

2011-06-01T08:58:00.001-07:00

We have all been to a place in our world where the mundane and routines cause us to feel humdrum and lethargic. There is a way to help your spirit from growing stale; to mix it up a bit so that your life is just a wee bit more exciting than it has been.

You do not have to join a cult or start a new business in order to feel fresh and renewed. The answers you are seeking are not a part of stepping into the vast unknown. They are inside you. Your mind sometimes longs for a new stimulation and you can find that easily enough.

A way to do this is to think about what you enjoy and expand on what you already do. If you are a reader then you can change the variety of reading material that you own. In other words, read something that you are not accustomed to reading every day. Step outside the routine and expand on what you already know. Reading is just an example; there are other ways to stray away from the stale and unexciting, without leaving your casual comfort zone.

You can rearrange your furniture or write a few words that will allow your everyday thoughts to expand. You could also listen to a different genre of music, paint an image of what your ideal mental life looks like through the perception of your mind’s eye or call someone you haven’t talked to in a while.

By venturing outside of your routines you are allowing room for creativity and curiosity to grow. While thought is free, you must mix up your corner of the world slightly in order to engage in new ideas. Give your soul and your spirit what it needs to mature. Your imagination is its playground; give it something new to play with.

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Dream-Drive-Succeed

2011-05-31T09:31:00.000-07:00

If you want success to be a part of your life you may have to work harder than you anticipated. The reality is that no matter how bad you want something you will not likely get it unless you go after it. Baby steps may need to be a part of your success equation as well as hard work. But if you attempt to accomplish, chances are you won’t come up empty handed.

Just wanting to do something is not good enough. You will need to make an effort to make things happen. Sometimes the tasks which are needed, in order to get your success journey moving, are something as simple as an email being sent or a phone call being made.

Devise a plan. Stick to the plan. Accomplish something every day which will take your one step closer to achieving your goals. Devote the amount of time in each day that you can spare towards making your dreams happen. Some people admit to having no time to pursue a dream, but if you want something bad enough you will make it happen.

Determination will move you forward and perseverance will get you there. Your dreams are what you make of them. Your success depends on your willingness to try and try again. Believe in yourself so that others can too.

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Everything Happens For a Reason?

2011-05-30T06:54:00.001-07:00

The phrase, everything happens for a reason, is something I have considered for some time. For a long time, I believed that everything did happen for a reason. Then, at some point, after I considered all the horror and unfairness in the world, I questioned how could this be true at all, and decided that it wasn’t. Finally, I played with this idea until I decided that sure, it is true, everything does happen for a reason, but not in the pleasant way that sometimes people associate with the phrase.

There is a reason that bad things happen, as well as the good things. If a bad situation occurs to a good person, perhaps the reason could be associated with an unwise act leading up to the bad situation. The unwise act could have been committed by the good person. An example would be a smoker causes themselves to develop lung disease, because they smoked for years even though they were aware of the potential outcome. A horrible accident happening to a good person could be the result of the unwise behavior of another. An example of this is a drunk driver takes the innocent life of your loved one. (This is the unwise behavior of another.)

So there is a reason for everything, but the reason may not be in your world, the reason may not even be a welcomed part of your world. I believe actions of individuals cause fair or unfair events to happen to many people.

To break this down even further, I disagree with the phrase; everything happens for a reason, being used to answer another person’s question. When a person is asking “Why, why did this horrible thing happen in my life?” and someone responds with that phrase, I wonder what they are really thinking or if they are thinking at all. Because the reason something negative happened to someone is likely a result of an unwise behavior from the past. The unwise behavior could be that of a stranger or of someone they know. I do not believe that really bad things have to occur in order to move our lives forward, but they sometimes do.

Sometimes bad things do happen, and it is unfortunate. We must deal with them, find a scrape of positivity and force it to grown. The human mind is capable of accepting great misfortune and it still has the potential to live a normal happy future. Sometimes bad situations can be prevented and other times they cannot.

Everything does happen for a reason, but that reason is in the past and it doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with karma at all. I do believe in karma and that you get back from the world what you offer it. I also believe that sometimes things happen to a person and it is just a way to remind them that they are human, which is simply not related to karma.

When you hear the phrase being said, “Everything happens for a reason” know that is likely being voiced, because no one can think of anything better to say. If you happen to be engaged with an unfortunate event do not hold it against the person who is saying the phrase too you. Remember that some people like to believe that the world is designed in a fashion that makes the horrible more understandable and they use this phrase to reassure themselves of this idea.

The sooner one learns that the only ultimate control they have in life is their mental thoughts the sooner the phrase, everything happens for a reason, will have less of an offensive or positive affect on their lives. We are not the masters of the universe, but we are the masters of our own minds.

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Future and Possibility

2011-05-29T04:44:00.001-07:00

Some fear the unknown. The future is unknown and the future is not meant to be frightening. The future is meant to be a source of possibility. The future is a time when anything is possible. Anything is possible, because the time is not yet ours and it is unwritten.

One should sugar coat their dreams and expect only the best to occur in their life. Allow yourself to live in a positive state of mind knowing that good things will come to your future. The complicated part of the human mental potential is expecting something to occur due to a learned piece of knowledge. It is where doubt and negativity can affect their expectations.

What appears negative now, may in fact, become one of the most positive aspects of one’s future. Embrace potential situations believing that they could become the best part of your life. Everything is not always as it seems. The mind can be influenced to think a certain way, regardless if it a positive or negative way of thinking. Remember the words around you, the people you know and interact with may have positioned your emotions to believe that something is bad when it is indeed good.

One’s disposition has the power to change the perceptions of the now and of the future (maybe even the perceptions of the past, too). If a mind is determined to embrace the negative, then the positive can be turned into a negative. How you choose to allow your emotions to run is a choice only you can make. The subconscious part of you knows that there is no reason to fear the unknown because it is aware that the future is filled with possibility. Allow the positive knowledge from your subconscious to seep into your conscious mind.

If the future arrives and you find that you are disappointed, ask yourself why. Is it because life did not turn out exactly as you thought that is should turn out? Situations happen in a particular order because they are meant too. If you have trouble believing that the world is designed with intent know that if it wasn’t, then one would be embracing chaos more times than not. Please do not confuse this concept with the idea that everything happens for a reason, for I believe this is simply not true.

Situations happen in a particular order for a reason. We are to learn from life’s experiences and embrace the positive. One should find the positive in every part of the past, present and future. If the positive cannot be found, then one should change the negative into a positive by attempting to perceive the entire situation from a different perspective. Do not fear the future, it is unknown and only filled with possibilities.

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What Your Soul Doesn’t Deserve

2011-05-27T06:32:00.000-07:00

When you are spending time ignoring the unpleasant parts of your life instead of dealing with them you are setting yourself up for unhappiness. Sometimes the reality is that your life isn’t going to improve or change unless you make the efforts.

Ultimately you are responsible for your own happiness. When there are people and things in your life that are causing discomfort you must act to remove them from your world. If you do nothing the negativity may fester and grow resulting in more heartache than your soul can process.

The longer you wait the harder it will become to act. It is unfortunate that one must do things that cause them to feel uncomfortable in order to get comfortable, but it is necessary. When you live with negativity and refrain from removing it you are actually settling for something which offends your spirit. When this happens a little piece of your positivity dies.

Living with the negative and unpleasant has the power to alter your unique characteristics. One of those characteristics is your self-esteem. The reason for this is because in your mind you know that you deserve better, you are aware that you are living a less than ideal life and you are settling for something that is negative when you deserve positive. If you would like to improve your self-esteem then live your life instead of settling for what is your life.

Your soul deserves to be happy, content and pleased with every aspect of your life. You owe it to yourself to control what is controllable and remove what is not. Some parts of life are just negative and will always have a negative effect on you. Those are the parts you need to accept as they are and remove them from your life.

Negativity shows up in many forms; learn to spot negativity before it makes itself comfortable in your world. Do not settle for a less than satisfying life, you have more power over the situations that you are a part of than you think. Sometimes life has to get bad before it gets better; other times one must work a little harder to obtain their right to happiness. Protect your spirit in order to avoid having it deplete the parts of your mental life that are good.

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Ways to Make your Life Better

2011-05-25T11:27:00.001-07:00

There is always something you can do to make your life a little better. It may be a small action or a huge action, but you can always improve different areas of your life each day. Small actions are the easiest to accommodate.

The key to making your life better is remembering to take care of yourself beyond hygiene. Your mind is a mysterious piece of art, treat it well. Make time in each day to do something nice for you. Your actions affect your thoughts. If you neglect your actions and thoughts you are neglecting your life. The way that you live your life is your choice, how you treat yourself is also your choice, which in turn means that you are in charge of making your life better.

Here is a list of different things you can do to make your life better.

1. Clean up your surroundings, a clean home means less clutter and distractions. Clutter has the potential to create depression. Red up your life and eliminate that potential.

2. Make yourself a good meal. When you eat healthy your mental life feels healthy too.

3. Spend some quiet time with yourself. The world is a busy place, take a moment to dream.

4. Whatever it is that makes your feel pampered, do that. Even if you only have a few minutes to utilize, pampering yourself is a way to make your life better.

5. Get some exercise. The results will get your endorphins flowing, which is the body’s way of thanking you for treating it well.

6. Lighten up; find something that makes you laugh. This could be interactions with people or just watching or reading a comedy.

7. Do something you can be proud of to make your life better. This could be as little as organizing a closet, painting a room or writing a short story. Whatever your talents are use them to make you proud of yourself.

8. Think about all the people you are grateful for in your life and do something nice for them. This will make your life better in the sense that making the ones you love happy will make you happy.

9. Celebrate life. Throw a party, a party for one if need be. You do not have to have many people over to celebrate your life. You can just make yourself look nice or comfortable (whichever suits you) and prepare a tray filled with your favorite snacks. You can include your family or if you are single, celebrate life with yourself. After you have prepared for the party, do something that you really enjoy. If you love movies, then watch a movie. If you love poetry, then read some poetry. You get the idea, to celebrate life do what you love because you are able.

10. Buy yourself a new outfit or something new. This will not make your life better by itself, but new clothes and possessions often make a person feel better about their self-confidence. It is not the idea of being materialistic so much as it is the idea of allowing you’re self the luxury. (Do not go overboard with this one- do it in moderation.) Moderation is an element that defines contentment – contentment is part of making your life better.

11. If something isn’t working in your life, change it. Change whatever it is that is causing your to feel ill-mannered. If you cannot change the situation, then remove yourself from it. Do not give it permission to be a part of your life.

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Negative Affect Behaviors

2011-05-24T07:56:00.001-07:00

Non- productive behaviors will only cause your achievements to grow stale or go sour. When you are trapped in a cycle of not working it is time to weed out the non-productive actions. The non-productive actions become a problem if they are causing you trouble, turmoil or more work than necessary.

Some non-productive actions include repeated reorganization and procrastination. If you are continually spending time reorganizing your files or lists there is nothing productive going on and procrastination can work against your success in many ways; such as missing deadlines.

One insult to your success can be starting achievements that do not need to be accomplished. In other words, sometimes it is nice to accomplish something related to your areas of interest, but if it doesn’t help your ultimate success journey it is non-productive. You must design a plan and attempt to stick as closely to your agenda as possible. This does not imply that you are not to enjoy your efforts; instead you are to avoid making your achievements more arduous than necessary.

The problem with taking an active role in non-productive, related interests is that you are more likely to get distracted. This becomes an issue when you can no longer remember what you started to achieve in the first place. Distractions are more powerful and more non-productive than one may realize. Distractions lead a person to consider unrelated actions, deplete disciplines and ultimately cause a person to stress more than necessary.

Save your time, save your money and stay focused on the bigger picture. Non-productive distractions may be tempting, but over all they have a negative effect on your journey to accomplishing. You can still have fun, but you must separate the positive affect behaviors from the negative affect behaviors.

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Why an Over-Achiever becomes an Under-Achiever

2011-05-23T06:38:00.001-07:00

I have seen this happen more times than I would like to admit. First the individual is doing well, climbing the ladder and success seems clear and reachable. The over-achiever suddenly becomes interested in many areas of success and each area requires a large part of attention to become a reality. The result is the over-achiever suddenly believes it is possible to do everything at once, stress consumes the individual and the result is frustration; which eventually leads to quitting in all areas of commitment.

Focus and satisfaction should be linked together in the dictionary. In order to stay focused, one must be able to accept and embrace satisfaction. In order to excel at your goals it is important to place your energy into carefully chosen areas. Schedules are important, belief is even better, but satisfaction must always be present.

This concept should help (pardon the expression) “the jacks of all trades and masters of none”. Making decisions is also critical to staying focused. You are only human, you are capable of many things, but which goal would you most like to excel at? That is the question you have to answer for yourself. You will not have to explain yourself to anyone, the decision is yours. As long as you feel good about the goals that you are going after that is all that matters. Remember they form opinions as a result of their life experiences not yours.

When attempting to pick out certain achievements, you must have the larger picture(s) in your mental view. Weigh out the pros and cons of the end results. Remember the now is where you are, the journey is where you will be soon and the outcome is your desired results. Make an agreement with yourself. Commit to staying satisfied and focused while on your journey to success. Refrain from starting new journeys before your original journey is finished.

You are who you choose to be, what you do with your time is also a choice. If you have already started more than is humanely possible, re-evaluate what your ultimate goals are. You do not have to punish yourself for not achieving all your goals at once. If you have a plan, focus and satisfaction you will be able to accomplish many things. Remember doing them all at once is sometimes a form of self-punishment. What are you punishing yourself for?

The current time is yours. You should not hurry your life away; you should enjoy what you are doing. Ideally we would think something and it would come to be within a short period of time... Okay, that is not ideal, it is insane – can you only imagine the lack of self-worth which would develop if everything in life was easy. Your self-worth comes from within. What you are able to accomplish contributes to your self-worth. The harder it is to achieve the more accomplished one feels after they have finished their goals.

Time is on our side if we make it that way. You should not hurry your life; agree to be satisfied with achieving one goal at a time. If you simply must complete multiple achieving at once, you should organize it so that all but one of those goals can be treated as a hobby instead of a deadline. Do not expect yourself to be a success superhero; there is not urgency in happiness. Enjoy your life, because no one is going to do that for you.

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Compliment Your Intellect

2011-05-20T19:15:00.000-07:00

Giving up is on the easy road. It is possible to avoid many difficult situations in your life; however it feels better to conquer than to be conquered. Whatever it is that seems more arduous than life, it is only as impossible as you make it out to be.

Do not fight against yourself, work with yourself. To explain this further, one should not do things that will make their lives more difficult than what they need to be. If you can achieve something that will help you better accomplish your outcome; do it. If you can make your life easier in anyway; do it.

Quitting is easy, but it is unrewarding. If your journey requires a super intelligence then aim to have as close to super intellect that you can. In other words, be the best you that you can be, produce the best results that you are capable of producing and hold your head high. Know that you did everything in your power to accomplish and that you have not let yourself down during the process.

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Positive Perceptions

2011-05-18T08:03:00.001-07:00

There isn’t one thing that is going to alter your present mental life other than your perception. How your mind perceives situations is up to you. So if your life is rotten, you need to focus on your perception of life. Keep in mind that all situations pass.

The worst of the worst is only in the moment. It will likely take time to heal your soul after you have experienced the worst of the worst; however the amount of needed time is entirely up to how you choose to deal with your thoughts.

If you focus on the negative emotions of life situations then the negative is going to have the hierarchy in your mental life. Positive perceptions can change your emotions. If you dig thru the mass of discontentment and dislike, you are likely to find something positive to concentrate on. Finding the positive in some situations can be quite difficult, especially if you are dealing with loss or another catastrophic event. Finding something positive to think about should be enforced as often as possible.

Negative thoughts may come into your mind, and it is hard to control that aspect of thought. When this happens allow the negative thought to pass. Do not hold onto it, maintain it or encourage it to stay. Allow unpleasant thoughts to move on. There should be no vacancy in your mind when negativity lugs baggage into your mental life.

One should always allow themselves the right to feel. Feel all of you emotions, but release the unpleasant ones. Make an effort to only welcome positivity into your world. This method may take others longer to adjust to than some. The process becomes easier with time. If you are sad or angry, achieve happiness by changing your perceptions.

I cannot honestly say that I believe there is good in every situation, but I can honestly say that I believe you can find positive repercussions if you look for them. Expand your perceptions, there is good in life and it is waiting for you to embrace it.

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Make Every Minute Count

2011-05-16T06:56:00.001-07:00

Chaos can become a reality when you are attempting to manage your everyday routines. It only makes sense to become, nervous, worried or stressed when you are short on time. The main thing to keep in mind is to focus on what is happening in the moment. Refrain from worrying about what you have to do next.

Make a schedule and only put items on the schedule that you have the allotted time for. Do not sell your time short, in other words allow the proper amount of time to accomplish. Plan to arrive at a location early – this will avoid rushing later. Do not focus on what you must do later in the day.

You may have to eliminate tasks from you schedule. I realize that each task holds a certain level of importance. It is okay to ask for help. You are only one person and no one should expect you to be a super hero, especially yourself.

Do one thing at a time. Multi-tasking may have many benefits, however sometimes tasks get accomplished poorly if you are trying to do too many things at once. You may forget vital pieces of information if your mind is cluttered with accomplishing too much at once. If multi-tasking is inevitable then plan to do a minimal amount of chores at one time (maybe one of two). This will help to prevent the feelings of stress and being overwhelmed.

Take time for yourself when you can. This may mean a simple bubble bath or just a little bit of alone time in order for you to regroup. Enjoy your moments as if they would be gone soon. The truth is that time passes instantly. Use your time in a way that will most benefit you and your life. You only live once, make every minute count.

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Turning Desires into Determination

2011-05-13T10:12:00.001-07:00

Doing what needs to be done is necessary even if you are not fond of the task. At times it may seem as though you are too good for something, perhaps you think the action is below your standards. The reality is if the task is imperative to your success then you should accept that you are human just like everyone else and do what needs to be done.

This is not to mean that you lower your moral standards and do something that would compromise your principled spirit. Instead, it is meant to remind that just because we do not like to do something, doesn’t mean that we should skip achieving, that what needs done, in order to get our goals accomplished.

You may have formed habits in the past which led you to believe that, in the present, you are too good to get the hard and tedious tasks done. Most of us cannot afford a personal assistance and we are forced to accept the fact that if we don’t do it there isn’t anyone else who is going to do it for us.

The key to achieving is acceptance. Once you accept that you are responsible for making your dreams happen, and hold onto the concept that there is a method to the madness, you will likely be able to achieve more efficiently. You will be less bothered by the chores that are needed if you focus on the bigger picture. Know in your mind that you are doing what you need too in order to promote an ultimate goal.

Accept that you are the vital element in making your dreams and goals come to be. If you do not work to make it happen, no one else will. The most successful people have done and will do many tasks they do not like. Success is about accomplishments and you can be responsible for greater achievements in your life if you are determined to make it happen.

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Possibilities Verses Self-Doubts

2011-05-12T08:15:00.000-07:00

If you don’t try something you’re never going to find out the results. Push self-doubts and low self-esteem aside and reach for your goals. Whatever it is that you want to accomplish has to be attempted in order to determine the possibilities.

One should not live in fear of possible failures. It is unwise to avoid attempting to achieve, simply because you fear the desired results aren’t possible. If you want something you have to go after it, attempt to accomplish and give it the best that you have got.

In order to have a sincere desire you must refrain from promoting negative thoughts. To explain this further, if you spend all your time thinking that you can’t instead of trying, then you will not accomplish. You must believe in yourself and believe in possibilities. Success belongs to everyone; the ones that don’t have it stopped trying or didn’t try in the first place. Try to obtain accomplishments before you deny them.

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Focus and Progress

2011-05-10T09:51:00.001-07:00

Because the mind can be an active playground or nightmare at times it can be hard to focus. In order to focus, one must clear their mind of what isn’t and what could be. A person that wants to stay focused on achieving and doing must forget about what is not occurring in the present.

This seems harder than what it is. If you decide to only think about what needs to be done or accomplished and start doing then you will find that your mind has become busy with a natural focus, and the wondering mind has settled or is settling.

Once the mind becomes active in accomplishing, it will begin to dismiss distracting thoughts. Doing has the power to transport mental life into a vast machine which can produce proactive thoughts. Don’t spend your time thinking about what needs to be done. Instead, do what needs to be done. Getting started is half the battle.

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Inspire Natural Energies

2011-05-09T12:44:00.001-07:00

When your mind is feeling tired or lazy the best remedy is to get moving. Once you start moving and continue to move you will find that you will start to awaken your natural energies. There are so many good things to be said about moving.

Not only will movement give your energy levels a burst, it will also promote a better mood overall. You don’t have to set forth on a journey to a full force exercise regimen. Aim to have fun; make a game of getting your endorphins flowing by playing a yard sport like volley ball or catch. You can also do a simple activity like walking.

I find that movement also motivates me to accomplish other things too. I am better able to focus and check off the things on the “to do” list. It seems that movement not only makes me feel good, but it also clears my mind; as well as making me feel healthier.

If you are feeling slow minded, slothful or put off try doing some exercise. I could probably list a thousand ways to move, but I will spare your intelligence the insult. Remember that you don’t have to doing anything boring; just get outside. Once you are outside allow nature to inspire your inner child and get moving.

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14 Things My Mother Taught Me

2011-05-07T19:04:00.001-07:00

1. Turn the other cheek. Wow… was that hard lesson to adopt and an even harder one to maintain. As I grew, I watched her turn her cheek; at times I thought this to be insane and I even went so far as to seek revenge for her. She held true to her beliefs, reminding me it was a waste of energy. Eventually, negativity would drift away from her world. Her angelic soul never once approved of my negative actions; she never judged or denied me even though she didn’t approve of my actions. After a while, it became easier to ignore those who offended my spirit. I should have listened when I first remembered hearing it at the age of three, and my life would have been easier.

2. Don’t gossip. As a teen I thought that was the funniest concept. I would run off as a giggling teen and continued to proceed in a gossipy teen like way. Of course, I learned the hard way that nothing good comes of gossip. I should have listened when I was younger.

3. Hold your temper. I must admit that it was hard for me to gain control of my temper. I would often wonder how my mom refrained from getting angry when I blew my top over the same type of situations that she barely raised an eyebrow over. As always, time told the story and eventually I learned her practice of maintaining my short fuse.

4. Love unconditionally. She taught me to accept everyone. She taught me we are all created equal and to give everyone a chance to leave an impression in my life. No one is better than me and I am better than no one. We are all special in our own way, but we should hold no value over material appearance and/or possessions.

5. Self-Esteem: My mother taught me that I am a valuable and special human being. I am capable of achieving anything I put my mind to. Her ways taught me that you are never too old to start and never too much of anything to accomplish.

6. Always be clean. Her famous saying was, “Soap doesn’t cost that much, everyone should take a bath.” My mom believes that everyone should take care of themselves, and that is a wise belief.

7. Don’t be lazy. She has never accepted sloth as a lifestyle. She taught me that if you can do something you should do it before you can’t do it any longer. This lesson has also brought much motivation into my life. Take advantage of the resources you have while you still have them. This means physical health as well as mental health, be grateful for what you have (many haven’t got that advantage).

8. Always forgive. People will get what they deserve and it isn’t our job to give it to them. Allow life to lead its course, forgive, forget and move on. Never ever hold a grudge, because it is wrong. Nothing good comes from holding onto a grudge.

9. It doesn’t matter what they think. My mom taught me that the only thing that matters is what I know is true and that I should not stress or worry about what others believe. Mind my own business, and be satisfied that you know what is true and correct.

10. My mother taught me that there is good in everyone. Okay I am the first to admit, that for a long time I thought she was nuts for believing this. Over time, I came to believe the same thing. Each and every person has goodness in them. With the proper amount of nourishment their goodness can develop and over shadow the negative.

11. Family comes first. My mother showed me that above all others family is the most important. First God, then family and then others. It is hard to express with words how much she showed me the value of family. In my life, I’ve witnessed that my family are the ones that will make me the maddest, but I’ve also discover that they are the ones that care about you the most. No matter which journey I have taken when I come back they are always the ones which are waiting to see me.

12. Believe in people. My mom taught me that they have potential which cannot be seen with the naked eye. There is hope for everyone, no matter where they came from or where they are going. No one should ever be damned.

13. One of the favorite things my mother has shown me is that life is worth laughing about. Even when you find yourself down in the dumps there is humor and irony to be enjoyed. If you refrain from engrossing yourself into doubt and despair you will find that there is always room for a chuckle.

14. My mom taught me to have no regrets. The past is over, and everything that has happened in the past is the past. Life is a learning experience, and there is no use fretting over the things you cannot change.

Thanks mom, you have taught me all of these things and so much more.

Happy Mother’s Day!! I hope that everyone has a blessed day.

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Because Time is Constant

2011-05-06T07:37:00.001-07:00

The most reassuring thing that you can do when a situation arises, that you disagree with, is to just accept it. Especially when there is nothing you can do to change the circumstances. Remind yourself that every cause has an effect and even though you may have no control over the circumstance, you do have control over your reactions.

Not all bad situations bring forth negative results. As hard as it may be to accept, sometimes negative promotes positive situations. With this knowledge, you can trust and believe in positive possibilities. When something ends something else is always beginning, because time doesn’t stand still.

If a crushing situation arises trust that is it happening to make room for new and better things to come into your life. Make an effort to not focus on the past or the future and instead focus on the now. There will be less felt drama if you concentrate on what is happening in the moment, instead of what could have been or what has been.

Time changes everything. It may take some situations longer than others to evolve, but eventually nothing is exactly the same as it was before. You can count on situations changing, but one should not count on situations returning to their previous state.

Clear out the negative thoughts, accept circumstances as the come (even if you don’t like them) and make room for positive possibilities to come into your life. When a situation ends, urgency ends with it. If there is nothing you can do to change it, then don’t try to fight it. Feel what you are supposed to feel and aim to move forward.

Some claim that everything happens for a reason, this I am not sure of, but I do know that time is constant, change is inevitable and the sooner one deals with this fact, the sooner happiness and contentment will be a part of their lives. The less resistance your present the easier it will be to accept things you cannot change.

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You’re Mental Life and Theirs

2011-05-04T06:45:00.000-07:00

Situations are not always as they appear. Sometimes it is necessary to place yourself in someone else shoes in order to understand their actions. This suggestion, if preformed wisely, will heighten the way that you act instead of react. It will also affect your overall emotions.

Understanding someone else’s motives is not always the easiest of tasks, but it aides you in your world of positivity. If you understand the outsider, instead of being enraged by them you will help to prevent negativity from coming into your world.

Ideally, you should keep interactions with negativity at a minimum. Sometimes this is not possible, because you have no choice and at other times your emotions get the best of you. Try not to react with emotion, if it is too late to use this advice don’t worry it happens to the best of us. The next thing you can do to help yourself is to stay low.

Refocus your thoughts and energies onto something that directly promotes your happiness. The most important opinion to consider is your own. This is in reference to the opinions which were formed rationally, without the influence of emotion or negativity.

This act of staying low is meant to keep you off of negativities radar. Staying low means being aware of bad karma attempting to encroach into your life. Teach yourself to recognize it, so that you can avoid it. If you do not permit your emotions to spin out of control into anger you will be better able to maintain a constant control over your actions.

If you’re internal emotions aren’t positive then your external emotions won’t be positive either. -ems

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Love is NOT Segregation by: Amanda Futrick Brooks

2011-05-03T10:35:00.001-07:00

These are just opinions and I am in no way telling anyone how or what is the right way to???? Act live???

Responsibility for our own actions is very important in our lives. Every question, every answer, every action, every decision we make is our own responsibility. No one else makes you decide to do something! It is you and you alone that decides your path in life. We can allow outside influences and situations to determine how we react, but in the end it is your choice that gets you where you are.

People can make excuses and give reason as to why they do things but ultimately it’s you. I never understood people that would say, “Well I had a tough life, so that lead me to drink or abuse drugs or do this and that”. That is just an excuse for neglecting your responsibility for the decision that you chose to make.

Most people fall in love at some point in their lives. When we fall in love sometimes they say two shall become one, but that doesn’t mean we neither forget nor neglect our self in that love. Love is not segregation, love is not paranoia….when you have a healthy love - you want to share your loved one with others.

The most important part of love is being true to yourself and the person you are in love with, that person fell in love with you because of who you were when you met and when you allow your relationship take over and change your personality you are no longer in a healthy relationship. STAY TRUE TO YOU!

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Misinterpretation and Accusation

2011-05-03T10:01:00.001-07:00

Standing in front of yourself – or simply put taking a look at your own life can sometimes cause to you to misjudge someone’s actions. You may mistake a simple action which was meant to encourage and support you as a piece of negativity.

When you are pointing fingers at another be sure to ask yourself why. Is your anger really meant for them, is your anger misguided and/or are you a victim of misinterpretation? What is the truth behind your discontentment?

When you attack another person (especially judging their actions from a negative stance) you might be burning bigger bridges than you can imagine. If your words have no helpful meaning behind them, then you are in the wrong. If you are judging someone else’s behavior to justify your own, you are approaching a place where forgiveness may not easily be found.

A judgmental person may realistically have issues beyond their own visual perception. If you happen to be on the end of the stick where attack is shooting daggers at you, remember that what is really going on has nothing to do with you. When someone is happy with themselves, they usually aren’t defensive. When they are defensive and judgmental refrain from taking it personally. The best thing that you could do is walk away.

You don’t deserve negativity in your life. At times it may seem impossible to ignore, but any response you give the attacker will only cause more drama and possibly more discontentment for you. The worst thing you can do is to get involved in someone else’s problems. Be honest with yourself, you have no right in their personal life. If you have previously became a part of someone else’s personal problems, withdrawal.

Before you ignore all of this advice consider the judgmental, the accusers and the name callers; remember that they will deal with their personal demons on their own terms. It is not your job to see to it. It is your job to take care of yourself and the world you are a part of. Take a deep breath and release all of which you have no control over. It is time for you to move on and leave the negativity behind you.

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Concepts of Ambition

2011-05-02T07:37:00.001-07:00

If you fail to realize the achievements are closer than you think you may give up just a moment too soon. Perseverance is what will maintain your pace and your patience will keep you steadfast. The odd thing about accomplishment is that sometimes doubt will attempt to accompany your journey.

Make no room for doubt when you’re trying to achieve. It may seem as though you work hard, so hard each day and the results are not coming in. This is the time when doubt can rear its ugly head. This is when you must remind yourself that everything you have aimed to accomplish could come to be sooner than you realize. This is also the time in which you must hold onto your perseverance and refuse doubtful thoughts.

Time alters all things, regardless if it is a surface change or an internal change; it happens. Goal achieving can become extremely tiresome or even stressful. You are strong enough to make it happen, you need to anchor onto your tenacious abilities and stay determined to succeed. These actions will prepare you for a period of self-questioning.

Your efforts may even be questioned by the ones that you are closest too. When this happens remind yourself that it is your dream, your efforts and ultimately it is your future. The ones that doubt and/or question you do not have the ability to see the world through your eyes, and they never will. Accept that some people will never get the concept of your ambition no matter how much energy you use trying to convince them. Save your energy; use it is a more productive manner.

It is a next to impossible feat to try and predict the future; have an opened-mind; see possibility. Just because it seems like you are working in vain and nothing will come to be doesn’t mean that it is so. Don’t allow doubt, sloth and negativity to be a part of your mental life. Hold true to your goals and protect your dreams, because no one is going to do that for you.

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Inspirational Quotes - 10 of them...

2011-05-01T18:27:00.000-07:00

1. "YOU’RE GIVEN THE FORM, BUT YOU HAVE TO WRITE THE SONNET YOURSELF. WHAT YOU SAY IS COMPLETELY UP TO YOU." - MADELEINE L’ENGLE

2. "DEFER NOT TILL TOMORROW TO BE WISE, TOMORROW’S SUN TO THEE MAY NEVER RISE."
-WILLIAM CONGREVE

3. "A PESSIMIST SEES THE DIFFICULTY IN EVERY OPPORTUNITY; AN OPTIMIST SEES THE OPPORTUNITY IN EVERY DIFFICULTY."
-WINSTON CHURCHILL

4. "PEOPLE OF MEDIOCRE ABILITY SOMETIMES ACHIEVE OUTSTANDING SUCCESS BECAUSE THEY DON'T KNOW WHEN TO QUIT. MOST MEN SUCCEED BECAUSE THEY ARE DETERMINED TO." -GEORGE ALLEN

5. "WHAT LIES BEHIND US, AND WHAT LIES BEFORE US ARE TINY MATTERS COMPARED TO WHAT LIES WITHIN US." - RALPH WALDO EMERSON

6. "YOU WILL FIND AS YOU LOOK BACK UPON YOUR LIFE THAT THE MOMENTS WHEN YOU HAVE TRULY LIVED ARE THE MOMENTS WHEN YOU HAVE DONE THINGS IN THE SPIRIT OF LOVE." - HENRY DRUMMOND

7. "WHEN WE FACE OUR FEARS AND LET OURSELVES KNOW OUR CONNECTION TO THE POWER THAT IS IN US WE LEARN COURAGE." – ANNE WILSON SCHAEF

8. "DOUBT YOUR DOUBTS.” - JOE BATTEN

9. "WITHIN EACH OF US LIES THE POWER OF OUR CONSENT TO HEALTH AND SICKNESS, TO RICHES AND POVERTY, TO FREEDOM AND TO SLAVERY. IT IS WE WHO CONTROL THESE, AND NOT ANOTHER." – RICHARD BACH

10. "PEOPLE ARE LIKE STAINED –GLASS WINDOWS. THEY SPARKLE AND SHINE WHEN THE SUN IS OUT, BUT WHEN THE DARKNESS SETS IN, THEIR TRUE BEAUTY IS REVEALED ON IF THERE IS A LIGHT FROM WITHIN." –ELIZABETH KUBLER ROSS

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Errors of Judgment

2011-04-30T11:28:00.001-07:00

If you have done something in the past and it turned out badly then you shouldn’t do it again. It is wiser to learn from your own errors of judgment than to keep repeating them. Each time you have a birthday you should promise yourself you will be one year wiser.

Everyone is responsible for their own actions, this is why everyone should practice teaching and learning for their own benefits. Never forget to forgive yourself, always own up to your mistakes and perceive everything that goes wrong as an opportunity to learn.

Take pride in your decision making, aim to become the best that you can be and if you know an action will bring a negative result then avoid it. This all seems like common sense, but sometimes it is more fun to get involved in a situation that will cause more heartache than good later on. With that said, one might begin to realize that common sense is a commodity and should be handled with care.

Many years ago, my kindergarten teacher told the class that if you have a doubt about doing something you should probably not be doing it. I have used her one sentence piece of advice my entire life, it was a statement filled with profound wisdom, especially for a five year old; even more so for an adult. It has saved me much heartache over the years.

Everyone should have fun (you’re entitle to a happy life), but you shouldn’t have to pay for it later. All of your decisions should affect you positively now and later.

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Rough Around the Edges

2011-04-29T18:44:00.001-07:00

While you are attempting to achieve multiple goals you may begin to feel wore down (rough around the edges). When this happens remind yourself that you are achieving with purpose. Do not allow the enormous workload to bring you down.

Eventually everything will be accomplished and all of your labors will be awarded. Remind yourself that it is just a task, not the end of the world. Hold you head high and persevere, it will be worth it in the end. If your state of mind is negative, deny your thoughts. In plain words, if you think positive it will be easier to proceed.

* Maintain a can do attitude, it will make all the difference in your mental life.

* You can do anything that you are willing to do.

* Success will be yours.

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Cleanse Your Soul

2011-04-28T12:08:00.001-07:00

Having to many possessions can complicate a person’s life. If you accumulate constantly eventually you are the proud owner of clutter. This concept is true for personal possessions as well as emotional baggage.

In order to move forward one must be willing to release their past. This means letting go of items you no longer use and disposing of ill-mannered emotions. Cleaning up your mind can be as difficult as cleaning up a room. However, if you are willing to act it can be accomplished.

Once you have come to terms with why you are hoarding emotions and possessions you can begin the process of de-cluttering your life. Just the same as you would give away or toss an item you no longer wanted you can do the same with emotions that you no longer need.

If you are angry, tell yourself you know longer need the anger. Put that negativity into an imaginary box. Do this with depression, rage, resentment, hate, self-loathing and any other ill-mannered emotion you can think of. Once you have mentally placed the emotional baggae into a box, you can then place the lid on the box and remove it from your world. You no longer want these emotional possessions, refuse to keep them.

Ideally as soon as you have done this all things are well, life is bliss and you feel great. The truth is you may have to repeat the process of de-cluttering your mind over and over again. That is okay, do this until you feel fine. You can take as much time as you need. The more you clean your mind the better you will feel.

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Release the Resentment

2011-04-27T16:26:00.001-07:00

You may resent someone because they have done something wrong to you or you have imagined that they did. Whichever reason, it is safe to say that resentment is a negative emotion. If it is left alone and not dealt with it may begin to fester. This will cause greater anxiety and possible malfunctions in your natural mental life.

There are several ways to approach this negative emotion. First and foremost get to the root of the issue. Are you mad at someone because they have done something that has horribly offended you or are you mad because you perceive their actions as a direct attack on your disposition? The way is just as important as the how. Once you figure out what is causing you to feel ill emotion and resentment it will be easier to tackle.

The very next step is to question yourself; after all it is your resentment that is irritating you. How legit it the issue? If the negative emotions have been building for years you will likely need more than this blog post can give you, however I am willing to give this topic a shot.

There are likely several sources for the growth of unnecessary resentments. It is probable that someone has been getting to you for some time. The person whom you are able to recognize the resentment for will be easier to forgive than you think. Before this person, perhaps there was an incident which allowed you to become comfortable allowing this negative emotion to grow. The before is a lot to cram into a tiny blog post.

Let’s say you have taken the proper amount of time to figure out the why of the issue, you have determined the who and you have also allowed yourself to see way past the now and determine what gave you the okay to think resentment was an acceptable emotion to have hanging around. (I am assuming that resentment is not new- and recently you have noticed the very negative effects of it, therefore you are attempting to change the emotion.) Next you are going to forgive.

To forgive you have to believe the person you resent deserves to be forgiven. I was once an angry person, so I can verify that this will take some time. Resentment that has been long held onto will not disappear in an afternoon. The amount of effort you choose to place into this situation will directly reflect whether or not you are free of resentment.

Several steps you can take are prayer, affirmations and consciously allowing yourself to release the resentment.

Every day you pray,

Every day you tell yourself (aloud) that you forgive ___. It is not worth it to make yourself feel miserable; you release the negative hold from your life and you are free from this ill emotion which has become such a burden in your life.

If you are able to believe - you are able to make this happen.

During this time of healing you must refuse your mind the freedom to dictate negative thoughts about the one you are attempting to forgive. It is within your power to deny negativity in your mental world. Counteract any negative thoughts with positive ones. Tell yourself that it is not worth it to feel resentment, it is not healthy and if you do not let go you will damage your internal positivity.

At first, one might not be aware of their internal positivity, but it is there. It has to be there, we were not born angry; we were born to love. Tap into that natural positivity to aide you in your journey to forgiveness. Stick with this process, repeat affirmations as frequently as needed and believe that your soul is not hateful, resentful or enraged. Your soul deserves to be nourished with love, forgiveness and all things positive.

Remember that forgiving is easy because you deserve this. You deserve to be free from ill-mannered emotion, you deserve the best and the world deserves to see positive emotions reflecting from your soul and the anger deserves nothing.

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Delicious and Incomparable

2011-04-26T08:02:00.000-07:00

Your dreams should be greater than you memories. Your memories may hold a vastness that seems incomparable too much of anything, especially if you are older than most. Your hopes and your dreams should be too delicious to be comparable to your past.

If you are a regular reader you will recall the value I impose onto your past, stating that it makes you who you are today. No one should ever dismiss their past, no one should attempt to make their past their present and everyone should live in the now.

Dreams, hopes and goals have the potential to put a person in the future. Now is where you are and everything you do should lead up to what’s imperative to accomplish; in order to make your dreams a reality. You can prepare for your future by living fully in the now.

The world around you is your world, not tomorrow, not yesterday but this very moment is yours. Now is the only part of time in which you have access too. The only time of your life that you can make a direct and immediate impact is now. You can dream big, attempt to see the bigger picture and set goals in order to create a fabulous future, but right now is where you are.

Your dreams should be huge; bigger than your memories of course, and if one would like to make their dreams reality they need to do something about making them happen now. The only time a person is able to accomplish is in the present. You can’t be proactive in the past or about a time which has yet to come. You can be proactive now, you can make it happen now and whatever you plan to do with your life you can affect it right this very minute.

Dream big and embrace the present, because it is the only time that belongs to you. Do not permit your memories to get bigger than your dreams. It’s your mental life, it’s your now; do something to embrace your dreams and be proactive in the moments that you own.

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Discover –Don't Regret

2011-04-25T08:14:00.000-07:00

Each day that has passed has been your day, as will all the days to come. The things you have done make you who you are. If you hadn’t experienced the situations in your past you would be a different version of yourself.

Love who you are and have no regrets. The past is over; you cannot alter time so you should embrace your existence. Be grateful that you are a person with the ability to think and breathe. So many times I hear of people that regret their entire past. Feeling bad about something you did should only last briefly, and then you should decide what you can learn from that experience.

You have the power to control your current actions and your previous actions should aide you in future choices. A miserable past has been a preparation for a better future. It was a process which has developed your character, recognize this.

You may have done some less than plausible actions in your past, acknowledge them but do not embrace them. Today is a choice; everything you say and do is a decision made by you. This gives you the power to do only positive things, to make wise decisions and use your past as a learning experience.

When you dwell on your past with regret you are one step away from a pity party. You may have done many regrettable things, this does not warrant a life filled with regret. Life is filled with possibility and only you can make those possibilities a part of your world.

Once you can learn to forgive yourself, you will be able to appreciate the world with a greater acceptance. The only thing that is holding you back from loving yourself is you. Forgive yourself, love yourself and embrace the power of positivity. Life is too short to bask in regret.

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Guest post by: Sadie A Jackson

2011-04-23T14:01:00.001-07:00

Daily list:
Daily song: “Be The Change” by Kat Edmonson
Daily quote: “A hug is like a boomerang—you get it back right away” –Bil Keane
Daily fruit: raspberries
Daily dessert: cheese cake
Daily hobby: baking
Daily movie: The Blind Side
Daily animated movie: Tangled
Daily band: Fireflight
Daily color: yellow
Daily word: serendipity
Daily Bible verse: “3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God” -1 Corinthians 1: 3-4 (NIV)
Daily amusement: My sister taking a bite of an egg with the shell still on!!
Daily color #2: verde (green)
Daily language: Español
Daily day: Thursdays because Private Practice is on
Daily show: Ghost Whisperer
Daily cooking show: Rachael Ray
Daily food: peanut butter crackers
Daily candy: twizzlers
Daily book: “When Joy Came to Stay” by Karen Kingsbury
Daily author: Karen Kingsbury
Daily cliché saying: wearing your heart on your sleeve
Daily smile: a lady from my church adopted 2 girls from the Ukraine
Daily place to go: Newseum in Washington, D.C
Daily song #2: “7 x 70” by Chris August

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Protecting Self-Worth

2011-04-22T08:37:00.001-07:00

Taking a break from the rush of attempting to accomplish is sometimes more than called for. At other times our plates get so full that we are unable to keep up with the demands of our goals. Instead of allowing yourself to get stressed out, develop a method of management.

Set a list of priorities. Make a list. Whatever system you come up with to devise order in your life follow it. Once you are able to see a list on paper or mentally you will also be able to see things being removed from your list as you accomplish them.

Everything will get done as long as you focus on achieving. If you happen to consider the mounds of tasks that have yet to be started you are likely to stress yourself out. Do not focus too much on what you should do first. If you have a deadline; start accordingly. If no deadlines are present then you must start anywhere; the key is to start.

It is best to do the least attractive chores first. This concept will prevent you from getting lost in the achievements that you enjoy and never getting around to the ones which you like less. If you happen to spend an entire day accomplishing only a few tasks, and then run out of time don’t panic. Remind yourself that tomorrow is another day filled with possibility.

The next day is just as important as the previous day. You must plunge in until the madness has become null. Organize the things around your life. This means de-clutter, so that you can focus with clear precision. Keep order, remain calm and stay focus and success will eventually be yours.

Success is possible if you want it bad enough to avoid distractions. There is no room for procrastination in accomplishments. The one that procrastinates is likely to lose interest before they finish. Lost interest leads to a loss of accomplishment. Once you lack the appealing qualities of accomplishing you will be prone to losing a certain amount of self-esteem. The reason for this is you know what you are capable of, however you’ve choose not to succeed (it’s like letting yourself down). Protect your levels of self-worth by refusing to give up.

How to Be Less Stressed Out

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Laugh Your Way Healthy

2011-04-21T16:51:00.001-07:00

Laughing is usually a pleasant action amongst happy individuals. Laughter is more than just a way to display your happiness; it also assists as an emotional equalizer. Amongst the many benefits one can receive from laughing it is one thing that everyone is able to do.

It creates a healthy function of the blood vessels which will increase blood circulation. It has also been known to relieve pain, stress and alleviate conflict. Laughter also has the power to alter a perspective on things and it creates a potential bond between two people.

It rejuvenates positive emotion energy. You might also be surprised to learn that laughter increases memory and the ability to learn. If you are having trouble finding a good reason to giggle, you may want to consider checking into these laughter activities:

1. Humor Therapy

2. Laughter Therapy

3. Laughter Mediation

4. Laughter Yoga

5. Laughter Clubs

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Inner Strength Against Insecurity

2011-04-20T12:50:00.001-07:00

Active insecurities feed into bolder insecurities. If you are having negative thoughts about your person you need to stop that method of thinking. No matter what has happened you are still the same person you were yesterday or ten years ago.

Circumstances change, actions change, but you are remain the same person. Recognize the insecure thoughts as they attempt to sneak into your mind. Conquer them with bold positivity. The more positive thoughts you create the stronger they will become.

Do not accept insecurities in your world; do not allow them to be a part of your life. You are as strong as you permit yourself to be. Use your power to promote as much positivity in your mental life as possible.

You own it to yourself to do one thing today that will make you feel good about yourself. You own your world and you have the power to take control of your thoughts.

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Preventable Regrets

2011-04-19T07:35:00.001-07:00

People come into our lives for a reason. Take the time to get to know them; make an effort to get acquainted with their soul. They may or may not have a huge impact on your life. It is better to attempt to figure that out before time passes and regret sets in.

We cannot alter time and resummons up the moments that we have allowed to slip away. Every situation should be treated with involvement. Be aware of the people you encounter and acknowledge their purpose in your life.

People may come into your life for the benefit of their own lives. You have more purpose than you are aware of. Get in touch with yourself; get in touch with your surroundings. Once you become self-aware you will likely recognize the variety of opportunities when they are presented to you, and you will be less prone to regrets.

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Your Conscious Mind; Your Fate

2011-04-18T08:06:00.001-07:00

The most affect a person can have on themselves is the use of their mental statements. This is in reference to the self-mental statements. The words you tell yourself such as; I am capable, I am strong, I am thin and I am good at everything I do have a huge impact on your self-esteem.

Negative statements have the same amount of power. If you are not brimming with optimism you may want to reevaluate why. If you place your personality traits into the hands of the conscious mind you are allowing yourself to direct your own fate.

Your self-administered reinforcements shape your personality. Outside influences have an effect on your personality, but ultimately your thoughts are the most powerful. Whomever you project yourself to be to the world will decided if you feel positive or negative in regard to your self-esteem.

The next time you are speaking in your mental world you may want to choose your words wisely. If you currently have a low self-esteem; force yourself to speak positive. By taking control of your thoughts you are essentially taking control of your self-confidence.

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Evolving With Success

2011-04-17T10:06:00.001-07:00

If you have been attempting to achieve a goal for any length of time you are probably aware of doing things in which you have little interest. You must do whatever it takes to obtain the goal, meaning that you must press through the implausible.

Present the bigger picture to yourself and focus on the final victory. If you must learn, create or accomplish something that you have no interest in to get there, just hold onto the emotion you will feel once you have accomplished.

It will all be worth it in the end. The most successful people have done many things that they do not enjoy. You can do them too. Remind yourself that you have a mission, that it is all part of a greater design. The harder you work to achieve the more gratifying your accomplishments will be.

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10 Wisdom Quotes

2011-04-16T14:11:00.000-07:00

1. “Nonviolence is a weapon of the strong.” - Mohandas K. Gandhi

2. “Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.” - Anais Nin

3. You can tell whether a man is clever by his answers. You can tell whether a man is wise by his questions.” - Naguib Mahfouz

4. “In examinations, the foolish ask questions the wise cannot answer.” -Oscar Wilde

5. “I know what I have given you. I do not know what you have received” – Antonio Porchia

6. “A fool flatters himself; a wise man flatters the fool.” -Robert Bulwer-Lytton

7. “By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.” -Confucius

8. “Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.” -Jim Rohn

9. “Re-examine all you have been told . . . Dismiss what insults your Soul.”
– Walt Whitman

10. “If you are lucky and work very hard, you may someday get to experience freedom from the known.” - Jiddu Krishnamurti

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Don’t Settle / Challenge Yourself

2011-04-15T07:53:00.000-07:00

Why are you doing what you are doing? Each and every day you wake up and live your life. Are you merely attempting to get by or are you fascinated with every interaction you have? Even if your answer is neither of those you should be challenging your highest level of being. What does that mean?

Well if you would like to feel like the best you that you can be; you need to stimulate your mind, enhance your levels of becoming a better person and make sure that your mental state does not grow stale. Exercise your existing abilities. This means whatever it is that you enjoy and whatever it is that you are good at should be a part of your daily routines. If you are good at something then challenge yourself so that you are great at it.

Being average is okay, but being grand will increase your self-confidence. Regardless of what you are doing you should aim to do it with precision and direction. Do not accept just getting by as a reasonable outcome. You are a strong and capable individual. You owe it to yourself to be the best you that you can be.

By settling for average you are accepting that you deserve nothing more than average. This is simply not the case; you deserve so much more than average. It does not matter if you are a short order cook or a CEO being the best that you can be is imperative to your levels of self-esteem.

Everyone has it in them to be a super achiever. It may be hidden deeply or it may not, but it is there. You can develop this part of you by treating every task like it matters. Do not live your life on the sidelines; challenge yourself. Respect yourself and respect your abilities.

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Right Here; Right Now

2011-04-14T08:10:00.001-07:00

So many people anticipate the future and/or recall the past. They spend much time wandering about a day that isn’t theirs. Fascination begins when one attempts to evaluate how many people actually refrain from taking advantage of the present.

This will not be a science lesson with statistics or graph charts; instead we will focus on the importance of the now. Instead of wishing one’s life away by dreaming about the future or recalling the past, pay attention to your current life.

As you perceive the world, perceive it with purpose. Take a moment to look beyond the service of an object. When you see a tree, bask in the knowledge that it too is a living, breathing thing just like you. The tree holds a beauty which many accept without acknowledgement. The tree is in your time, the tree is not the past or the future. The tree is now just like you.

Many people miss opportunity while not being in the moment. The moment is the air you are breathing, the energy you are using and the people that are with you. Now is your time, not yesterday or tomorrow, but right this very second. How you choose to use the reality of your eternal present is up to you.

You only have the power to alter the now. You can change how the future is affected by your current actions, but you are not in the future; therefore you are unable to change it. The greatest power that a person has is in the now. You can only act and breathe in the present. Your mental life is a nice life to have, but if you would like to have the greatest impact on your world then respect, and appreciate the now.

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Memory Contest Winner

2011-04-13T12:51:00.000-07:00

Congratulations to Cate from MN!

Cate is the lucky winner of our Memory Contest.

Thanks to all who participated in the contest!

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It’s Their Disposition, Not Yours

2011-04-13T12:12:00.001-07:00

A less than pleasant person may enter your life. When this happens you must remember not to take their words and actions personally. You are not the reason that they have projected a negative situation before you.

Every person holds a unique disposition. Some are more positive than others, some are nicer and some are neither of those things. It is your job to remind yourself that the negative person has things going on in their lives that have nothing to do with.

You may have been put into an unfortunate situation where you are in their line of fire. When this happens, you should end the conversation as soon as possible and accept that today is not the best day to interact with the negative person. If you are lucky enough negative may just be passing by. Do not throw out the welcome mat and promote a longer interaction that necessary.

Stay focused on yourself and your goals. Keep in mind; that it is their life and be grateful that negative is not your life. If you stop to indulge in a pity party, or react to the negative situation you are hurting yourself. The best thing to do is to respond with kindness, smile and refrain from acknowledging their less than sunny disposition.

If you act like you are beyond the involvement of negativity; you will be beyond the realms of negativity. Keep your energy focused on the positive, see the bigger picture and do not take someone’s bad day personally. Do not put a huge amount of thought into negative situations, release them and tell yourself it is not that big of a deal. Remind yourself that negative is not a part of your life unless you give it permission to stay.

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Actions Energy Life

2011-04-12T08:46:00.001-07:00

Being agreeable does not always promote satisfaction. Being disagreeable promotes even less satisfaction. The alternative is to agree to disagree. That does not always mean that one needs to voice their opinions.

Sometimes disagreeing in silence is just as effective. As long as you know what you are thinking it should be far less important to convince others to think like you. Oddly enough the more silent you are about the matter the less important it will become.

Train you mind to forget about the disagreeable. This means that you are not to focus on what other’s might be thinking or what type of opinion they have on a matter such as religion, relationships or any other type of situation you cannot see eye to eye on.

It is not imperative to speak your mind about something that really isn’t your business. If you feel urgency to express your doubts about someone else’s life, keep in mind that things will work out as they should; even without your opinion. Don’t attempt to play God by using control freak tendencies.

Let go. You are not the one with all the answers. Convincing someone to believe like you is a costly energy source. Your energy is valuable; use it wisely. Focus your energy on straightening out your life. In the bigger picture, your actions will affect your life the most.

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You Deserve

2011-04-11T08:04:00.001-07:00

If you want anything you have to accept that you deserve it. You must allow your mind to believe that you are willing and capable of getting whatever it is that you are hoping to accomplish. No one is better than you; you deserve the finer things just like everyone else.

The finer things can include success, material items or anything in which you believe is better than average. You are a finer thing, you are better than average. With the proper amount of commitment anything is possible. Believe that, embrace that and put it in the category of your personality that allows you to hope and dream.

You must accept that you are special, you deserve and nothing is too good for you. If you do not accept this; how do you expect anyone else too? How you perceive yourself has a huge effect on how others can perceive you.

You deserve to be loved with quality. You have the right to good feeling, and positive emotions. Love yourself so that others can too. Achieve to obtain the finer things in life and believe that you deserve them.

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False Emotion

2011-04-09T10:49:00.001-07:00

Listen to what your internal dialogue is saying. You are creating your internal dialogue, because on some level you want too. If your thoughts are challenging your actions you need to pay attention and ask yourself why? What is it that you need to interrupt?

Are you attempting to persuade yourself? Why are you doing that? What message should you take from the conflicting thoughts and actions? Perhaps this is happening to warn you to stay committed to your authentic self.

You can count on your subconscious to trigger the appropriate questions when you are in danger of misplacing your commitment to self. Your internal dialogue has matured enough to be able to warn you of impending disaster for a reason.

It is your job to listen to your internal dialogue. Sometimes our internal dialogue will create a sense of insecurity. This is just another attempt from your subconscious mind. It is warning you to pay attention to your behavior. You are feeling insecure for a reason, the reason is not insecurity. Why are you feeling that way?

The root of the issue can be hidden in a secret message which you have to decode. The insecurity or negative feeling is a false emotion. It was designed to alert you of something else that is going on. Your actions and thoughts should compliment one another. If they don’t then you need to get to the root of this reasoning.

Internal dialogue is not always honest, pay attention to what you are hearing. Ask yourself why you are having those thoughts. Question what is behind the meaning of negative thoughts, what are they really saying. If you are feeling insecure, or doubting yourself; figure out why. Design your actions to your true self and they will compliment your thoughts.

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You Owe Yourself

2011-04-08T11:33:00.001-07:00

If you ignore the obvious and allow life to happen without making an effort to promote the spirit of your person, you are permitting life to go on without you. In plain words, if you choose not to take action when needed, you will end up with a life you didn’t choose.

It is important to alter the situations in your life when need arises. Whether it be changing your relationships or altering your routine, you are in charge of what needs to be changed. If there is a part of your life which is uncomfortable only you can modify it. It’s your life and you are in charge of your happiness. Only you can decide what is best for you.

The progress of the world will happen even if you choose not to participate. The most powerful element around you is time; time can enhance or destroy your world. How you decided to use your time is the only control that you have.

The answers that you are looking for are within. Do not look for an outside source to solve your emotional turmoil. That is like asking a fork to do a spoon’s job. When life gives you a test it is actually karma asking you to learn something. Accept the challenge, take control of your life and do not allow ignorance to determine your destiny.

You are a beautiful person; you deserve to have what you want. Lower your standards for no one. Demand that life give you what you deserve, make life happen for you. Do not allow the lack of action to damage your soul, because you deserve better. You know that you deserve better.

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Worry is Counterproductive

2011-04-07T07:47:00.001-07:00

Worrying isn’t productive, as a matter of fact, it can be counterproductive. When you worry you are actually adding fuel to negativity. If you are constantly considering the worse scenario the laws of attraction will elevate that scenario.

If you are prone to worry a lot you should make a conscious effort not too. Positive outcomes can be attracted to your life as much as the negative. When you speak of negative possibilities you are potentially speaking them into existence.

Worry promotes ill feeling. Trust that all things will work out according to plan. Do what you can to make it happen, and believe that it will happen. If something appears in your world to make it seem as though things will not work out, deal with them when possible and dismiss them. Do not feed energy into the negative portion of the situation.

Instead of spending endless hours on worry, spend your energy on positive possibilities. Dream of exactly what you would like to happen. See it all happening as positive as it possibly can. Make the laws of attraction work for you. Worrying is about as useful as gossip; it doesn’t need to be a part of your life.

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The Eyes of Insecurity

2011-04-06T09:07:00.001-07:00

When the emotion of a situation nags at your soul, you need to trust your feelings. You know in your heart what you have to do; it is insecurities that tell you that you don’t. You are aware of what you can and cannot live with. The only thing left to develop is a plan.

The easy path may not be the healthiest path. If there is a person or thing in your life which offers distraught emotion, you have to organize your life in a way that doesn’t include the negative situation. The red flags are taunting you with purpose. You must act and avoid reacting. Harness your true self and remain loyal to your person.

The decision has already been made for you, you can feel it. You breathe it and you will not feel peace until you act. Recognize it; your self-confidence will fade if you wait too long. When the spiritual part of you feels uneasy, insecurities manifest and it is a warning sign. You are strong; you can do anything that you set your mind too.

One should not settle for being pushy or being a push-over. Articulate your own opinions before you give up your own identity. Do not cut off parts of your personality to meet the needs of the people and things around you.

In order to find comfort on the matter, you must do only one task at a time. Have a mental checklist and stay focused on the most important matter first. Once you have accomplished the task, check it off and move to the next issue. This method will promote a sincere communication with self. It will send a strong message to those around you that you aren’t insecure.

Changing the situations in your world can be one of the most rewarding experiences in your life. Weigh the pros and cons and be sure of your stance on the matter before you move forward. If you are weak mentally it will shine amongst the masses. The level of confidence you hold will affect the ability to be turned against your will. Make your decision with purpose, see the bigger picture and hold true to your values.

Stop seeing the world through the eyes of insecurity and take control of your life.

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Accept, Learn, Succeed

2011-04-05T07:30:00.001-07:00

Why does it seem that some people are really good at everything they attempt to accomplish? The answer is relatively simple; they try. What we don’t see is their failed attempts at success. It appears that life is easier for them. The truth is they are simply more determined and they believe in their abilities.

Determination is what takes them to the top. Trying over and over again is a chore that they once mastered. They have developed ability to master skills at a quicker rate, because they have brought their determination and self-confidence up to par. Gaining an understanding at an early age, along with repeated determination is what makes a person appear to be good at everything they try to do.

What about the rest of us? It is never too late to develop your determination. A tenuous attempt to accomplish will help you achieve your goals. Practice will develop and enhance your motor skills. Accepting setbacks as learning experiences (instead of coining them as failures) will keep you on the right path. A belief in yourself will take you the rest of the way.

You can be good at everything you attempt to accomplish. It is true that some people have to try harder than others, but in reality the others have been trying all their lives. The more you enhance your determination the easier accomplishments will come to you.

Don’t work against yourself. Look at the impossible as a challenge, believe in yourself. If you tell yourself that you can’t achieve then you are working against yourself. Tell yourself that you can and you will. The only thing that can stop you from being good at everything you try is yourself. You are the master of your dreams, believe, stay determined and you can make it happen.

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It's Who You Are

2011-04-04T11:13:00.001-07:00

When a person misplaces their core navigation it may be tough to find their way back to self. Maybe you know someone who is suffering through an identity crisis or perhaps it is you that is looking for answers. The kinds of answers that make your life make sense again are not as far away as you might think.

Everyone comes back to who they really are, or at least a version of whom they used to be. We all have roots which define us. These roots make us unique to our person. These roots are what will pull a person back from an identity crisis. If you hold regrets, stop. You should never regret where you have been or what you have done. Accept it as a part of your past. You define yourself by your current actions. Change is possible. Make positive choices; redefine your sins by turning your life around.

You must acknowledge that you have misplaced your core identity. You mind is a vast source of plausible information filled with memories. Focus on the memories of when you were sure of who you were and where you were headed. Relive the memories in your mind, feel the pleasant reassurance that everything was making sense to you.

This will create positive thoughts and remind you that there is hope. Turning back time isn’t possible. We can reflect, we can recall and we can look at photographs that will jog up old feelings. The concept behind this exercise is not to encourage one to live in the past, but it is designed to help one recall their self-confidence. Incorporate your memories with your present situations. Utilize the past to aid in self-discovery.

You must create an outlet for your frustration. Outlets may include: writing, painting, crafting, running, or other physical movements. It’s your identity crisis; do what works for you. Don’t keep it all bottled up, it must be released. When you hold onto frustration you are holding onto negativity. You do not have to hold onto unpleasant emotions, you do not have to own insecurities. Release it.

Once you have started the process of releasing negative energies you will begin to feel more comfortable with yourself. The more comfortable you become with yourself the more uncomfortable the identity crisis will feel. Rediscovering one’s self should not be a fight. If you feel that you are fighting against yourself then readjust your actions until they feel natural.

Do not expect immediate results. You may have to ease yourself back into being you. This is why creating an emotional outlet is so important. You didn’t develop an identity crisis over night, give yourself time to heal. You deserve it.

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Memory Contest

2011-04-04T07:31:00.001-07:00

We are having another contest.

To view the details follow the link below to our contest page. The contest will be held by event on our Facebook Community page.

Get Details Here:

Memory Contest

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Acceptance and Honesty

2011-04-03T10:57:00.001-07:00

Be honest with yourself and be honest with others. When you are deceiving someone it is a form of deceiving yourself. Forming any type of lie is triggering a dishonest element within you. Dishonesty is a manifestation of negativity. To become strong, independent and at peace with your being you should encourage your thoughts to be honest.

Accept who you are and the situations you encounter. When you accept the world at face value you will be more inclined to have clear thoughts. When your thoughts are clear you will feel serenity and comfort in your actions.

By putting energy into deception you are taking away from your independent thoughts. Your independent thoughts are the natural considerations that come into your mind. They are the fluent ideas which define your unique personality. Deception alters the natural flow of your thoughts.

When you are living the actions of your natural thoughts you will strengthen your self-confidence. It is hard for one to feel confident when they are basking in a sea of lies. Being honest will enhance your confidence due to the peaceful emotion which develops from your independent thoughts.

There is nothing wrong with whom you are. If your actions are not as plausible as you’d like them to be then change them. You are in control of your life. If you find that you are in a situation that requires you to promote deception then alter the situation so that you do not have to lie. Do not distort your happiness; instead accept yourself so that others can accept you too.

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Positive Force VS. Negative Force

2011-04-02T07:29:00.001-07:00

Difficult people will present themselves in your life regardless of what spiritual level you obtain. In order to prevent them from affecting your disposition you must maintain a level of commitment to your emotional progress.

If you allow your pure emotion to grow stale, and refrain from practicing positivity you will become susceptible to the effects of negativity. The amount of strength needed will depend on the degree of difficulty presented to you. It is advised that one be completely prepared to defend their good emotion.

You can maintain or promote your positive emotion by engaging with optimistic people. If you are having trouble with your thought patterns, make yourself consciously aware. When you feel that you are about to participate in a series of negative thoughts stop yourself before it affects you physically and mentally.

When an offensive person encroaches into your positive thoughts, simply hold up your hand and tell them no negativity allowed. You must be strong, because negativity is strong. The more you feed into it, the bigger it becomes. Limit the interactions that you have with soul crushers. If you constantly interact with negativity, it will have effects on your positive nature regardless of your strength.

If you out source to find entertainment then be careful what you choose. Your subconscious will absorb more than you are consciously aware of. Your reactive personality didn’t just appear. It has developed over time. External influences, as well as your internal factors, built your reactive personality. Take the time to acknowledge all of the influences, and then allow your true self to take over.

You are in control of your life, acknowledge that. Own yourself, own your world. Difficult influences are just another unfortunate situation. Equip yourself to deal with them. Engage in positive influences and do not permit your pure emotions to grow stale.

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Contest Winners

2011-04-01T12:51:00.000-07:00

We are pleased to announce the two lucky winners from our coffee mug contest.

Congratulations to:

Lisa from Canada
Beth from GA

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1. Be Grateful / 2. Recognize Happiness

2011-04-01T09:19:00.000-07:00

The world isn’t all about you, but your world is all about you. When you doubt yourself remember that you hold the keys to the root of your success. You are in charge of your physical, emotional and spiritual fulfillment. How you choose to handle the essential elements of your life is a choice made only by you.

If you would like an alternative to your outlook and an alternative to how you feel each day it is up to you. How you describe, interpret and reason is the power which defines your emotions. The level of self-worth that you have was created by you.

Look within, the answers are there. Your emotional perspective is critical to the disposition that you carry. If you would like to have a higher level of self-confidence then change the way that you interrupt the negative; reinforce the positive. Refrain from suppressing the inner joys in your life. Make an effort to be grateful and recognize happiness when you see it.

Happiness and contentment are choices that you make alone. If something in your world isn’t up to par, then change it, alter it or remove it. Life is too short to be unhappy. Do not be your own worst enemy. Find the good in all things, if this seems impossible then you must look harder. Trauma, loss and pain were designed to teach us about our emotions. It isn’t fair that one must face these situations; however it is up to each individual to find inner peace for themselves again.

We are all connected by our ability to think and feel. In addition to that, we all have the necessity to breathe. You are not alone, because we all share these common bonds. It is unfortunate that some must deal with crisis, while others appear to never have to face a harsh reality. The truth is harsh realities are everywhere and none are exempt from it.

Everything is not always as it seems and you mustn’t compare yourself to others. Comparing causes ill emotions. Take charge of your life and take charge of your happiness. Do not permit life to happen for you; take charge. You have more power than you think.

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Be Who You Love to Be

2011-03-31T08:20:00.001-07:00

During you journey to success you may encounter someone who finds it imperative to judge your achievements. Take each word that is expressed to you with consideration. Even the negative may hold value. Negativity should never be promoted and one should not encourage a negative conversation, however you should look for the positive meaning behind every interaction.

This most important opinion is how you feel about your actions. Be open for improvements, but if you feel you are doing okay then stay focused. Opinions only matter if the hold a certain volume of positivity to them. Keep in mind that no one knows everything. Have an opened mind without allowing it to affect your positivity.

Be yourself and be who you love to be while maintaining a certain level of commitment to your journey of achievements. If you remain strong and committed you will arrive regardless of what others have to say about your success.

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Success Quotes: 12 of Them

2011-03-30T16:14:00.001-07:00

1. We would accomplish many more things if we did not think of them as impossible.
- C. Malesherbez

2. Success is not so much what you are, but rather what you appear to be.
- Anonymous

3. If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.
- Henry David Thoreau

4. The victory of success is half done when one gains the habit of work.
- Sarah Knowles Bolton

5. The world belongs to the enthusiast who keeps cool.
- William McFee

6. Out of every fruition of success, no matter what, comes forth something to make a new effort necessary.
- Walt Whitman

7. Self-trust is the first secret of success.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

8. Networking is an enrichment program, not an entitlement program.
- Susan RoAne

9. A man can succeed at almost anything for which he has unlimited enthusiasm.
- Charles M. Schwab

10. Success is that old ABC- ability, breaks and courage.
- Charles Luckman

11. It is no use saying 'we are doing our best.' You have got to succeed in doing what is necessary.
- Winston Churchill

12. It takes time to be a success, but time is all it takes.
- Anonymous

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Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life

2011-03-29T07:19:00.001-07:00

Believe in yourself and believe in miracles. Trust that things will work out, do your part and aim for your highest level of self. You must create your life from the inside out first. Having faith can be a great asset to your success. Before you take any action you should believe in yourself, your abilities and that all things will work out according to plan.

You may be traveling on a path that has been less than fortunate. You must release the false pretentions that may have has caused you to believe your future will be less than ideal. Current events and external factors may paint a picture that leads one to believe that situations will not work out according to plan. Ignore these factors, look within and acknowledge your faith.

You are not to blame your future for your past. What may become is different from what has occurred. Embrace possibility. Deny doubt an existence in your life. If doubt is there, you must learn to slow the thought down. Make your faith stronger by believing in your ambitions. Change the tone of your internal dialogue. You have a choice, it is critical that you stay committed to your hope.

Doubt is the distorted perception of faith. Doubt is backward and negative. Faith is positive and encouraging. Life is not about what you don’t like; it is about what you do like. Focus on what you do like, focus on what you would like to happen. Believe it will happen and you will find your faith within yourself.

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Speak it Into Existence

2011-03-28T07:06:00.001-07:00

We are all guilty of having a pity party at least once in our lives. If you haven’t had once since you were a child, you deserve to be commended. What some do not realize is that when they are having a pity party they are actually promoting negativity.

If you are always saying stuff like: “____ always happens to me.” Then you are reinforcing the negativity in your life. Try filling in the blank with something positive. I believe that we can speak things into existence. It lines up with the laws of attraction. If a person is constantly complaining and reinforcing that negative things are a part of their lives then it is bound to become true.

I have a memory I would like to share. At one point in my life I was financially insecure. After a lengthy conversation with a friend and a change in the words I used, things turned around. Instead of saying that money was tight and I shouldn’t buy this or that I would say the opposite. I would confess that I had tons of money. I would tell the same people that now I was loaded and my family was rolling in the money. I would also tell them that I received checks in the mail every day. In less than seven days, I received over three thousand dollars in checks in the mail. The money came in the forms of checks that I didn’t know I had coming to me.

The same type of situation can be turned around regarding stuff, health and emotion. If you consciously change the words you are confessing, your life will change. You have to believe and embrace that it is possible to have the kind of life that you consider ideal.

Pity parties promote the anxiety in your life. Negativity promotes misery. If you want to change, you have to change the way you think first. You have to believe that you deserve the best in life. Think it, feel it and wait for good things to happen. Pay attention and appreciate the small changes. Small changes are the products of big miracles in progress.

If you want negative, then think negative; embrace it and tell the whole world about all the negative things happening in your life. If you want positive, do the opposite. Refuse to accept negativity as a part of your life. Do not own negativity, because once you own it will own you.

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Defy Procrastination

2011-03-27T15:48:00.000-07:00

The longer that you avoid a situation that needs to be dealt with the more pain staking it may become to find your determination.

When situations become difficult, you must find it in yourself to push forward. You have it in you, you know that you do. Defy sloth and procrastination. Do what needs to be done and before you know it you’ll be able to relax.

It is important to remind yourself during this personal struggle that it’s just another detail that needs tended too. The sooner you acknowledge and accept that, the easier it will be to deal with. Determination is just another characteristic in which you have the power to control. You control all of your emotions; you can make or break yourself.

When a situation arrives, that you are tempted to procrastinate over, you can assure yourself that you are on your way to achieving. If success was easy, I’d have several. It would not be as rewarding if it didn’t require effort. Hold your head high, push forward, accomplish and feel the satisfaction of not procrastinating. I will confidently admit that if I can do it any of you can!!!!

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Managing Unpleasant Situations

2011-03-26T07:51:00.001-07:00

Regardless of what is occurring in your life, you need to gather your rational thoughts before acting. This is especially true when an unfortunate situation upsets you emotionally. Immediate reactions have the potential to cause more unpleasant experiences.

Think before you respond to the matter. Wait a minimum of twenty minutes before saying or doing anything regarding the issue. Speak with someone who has an objective point of view. Hold true to your positive energy. Take several deep breathes and wait a few more hours. The time will offer a period in which rational thoughts can develop.

Your emotional situation may arouse old memories to stir. This is what I like to call memory reactions. Your memory reactions do not suit your current mental state. The past is in the past for a reason. At times, someone might like to send out unpleasant reminders pertaining to the hurtful memories.

Unfortunately you must deal with these reminders. The good news is you are a different individual now; you have grown and matured emotionally. You are now in a position where you can respond objectionably, but you have to release your immediate reactions before dealing with the matter.

Remember who you are and how you got to the place you reside in now. You have the strength to deal with unpleasant situations. Set your emotions aside and react with reasonable solutions. Remind yourself that it just another situation you must deal with. The unfortunate occurrence won’t last forever. Hold you head high, embrace positivity and only react after you have sorted your emotions.

Do not feed energy into the matter. Do what you need to do, think about it only as much as required, but do not allow the event to influence your life too drastically. The good parts of your life are pleasant, protect them. Focus on a minimum response and embrace the other positive things in your life.

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Preparations for Success

2011-03-25T08:46:00.001-07:00

In order to enhance the laws of attraction you should prepare your world. Prepare your surroundings and yourself for your success. Make your life ready to receive success. Whether it be arranging your home, your lifestyle or simply your appearance; you want to be ready.

In plain words, if suddenly success and achievement knock at your door, you do not want to be caught off guard. Do not allow yourself to be put in between a rock and a hard place where you must do something in order to accept your achievement. Otherwise you will be caught with big excited eyes while saying if only I had….

Assume that you will achieve your highest goals and then do everything in your power to be ready. Complete your life by doing all the tasks that need done while you are aiming to accomplish. Avoid procrastination and assume that you will accomplish on queue.

Success isn’t about dreaming, it’s about doing. Whether the details are difficult or simple they all maintain an importance on the journey to success. If you want your life to gleam with accomplishment you have to prepare yourself first.

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It’s your life – It’s Your Emotion

2011-03-24T07:44:00.001-07:00

Holding grudges will make your soul cringe and cause a constant feeling of turmoil. Turmoil may reside dormant in the deepest depths of your soul, but if it’s there it will affect even the simplest tasks. In order to be truly happy, it is imperative that one learns to embrace the spirit of forgiveness.

If you do not practice forgiving even the most unforgivable actions your soul will turn bitter, cruel and even grow old before you have too. Forgiving someone or something can be arduous, but it must be done. Find you inner strength and realize that by embracing your anger you are truly hurting your spirit.

Do not just forgive the current situations which anger you, but forgive them all. This includes even the oldest of memories. It is impossible to become the best you that you can be while holding onto negativity. One shouldn’t give anger, resentment and bitterness permission to swim in their soul, and by holding onto anger you are doing just that.

Visualize a dark mist, floating around in your soul, eating your happiness by merely jerking in the direction of your feel good emotion. Anger is a powerful sensation and it can create a spirit of emptiness by simply having permission to reside in your world. Carlos Castaneda said it best when he said, “We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.”

You can maintain peace of mind if you choose to release the negative feelings before the take hold. It is easily said, but it takes effort for some. Once you have mastered the ability to reject rage and anger you will have mastered the edge of positivity. It is up to you, you are a strong person with a tenacious set of morals utilize those strengths in a practical and helpful manor.

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Challenge Yourself

2011-03-23T07:56:00.001-07:00

Sitting idle in a world that is robust with energy has the potential to cause negativity. If you never do a thing to better yourself, if you never promote the concept of becoming the best version of you that you can be then your soul will grow stale. Staleness in the soul can lead to all sorts of self-destructive behaviors.

Wrap your mind around a hypothetical situation; a person you know routinely does the same behaviors over and over again. They never take a chance. They never challenge themselves, and they abstain from taking risks. They avoid the unknown due to fear of rejection. Their appearance is a reflection of their activities; and there is nothing you can do to help them, because they won’t help themselves. You watch as their life spirals out of control and you have witnessed their self-confidence wither away. That is an extreme example of someone who does not feel the need to become.

In order to get the most out of life, you must reach for it. Life will not come neatly packaged in a box; you have to use your determination to make it happen in the way that it will happen best for you. Success can be felt in a variety of ways. Success is not just becoming the king or queen of the corporate world; success is becoming the best you that you can be. Success can be felt all over the world in every walk of life.

Challenge yourself, reach for higher levels of commitment and don’t stop until you can go no further. Pace your goals, and enjoy your achievements as they develop. Utilize the gift of life, because no one will do it for you. A wise woman once told me, “Breathing is not living.” She was right on so many levels. One must live life to the fullest in order to get the most from it.

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Shhh, Silence! by: Patrice S.

2011-03-22T20:04:00.000-07:00

Sometimes we talk so much, too much!
It's not always a good thing. U know, sometimes we can say much more just by saying nothing. It is important to have control, control over our tongues and our minds. How helpful is the whispering, gossiping, lying, backbiting, slander?? someone winds up hurt, disgraced and too often DEAD. Solomon once said, "The one who guards his mouth preserves his life; the one who opens wide his lips comes to ruin". (Pro. 13:3)…..More

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Your Life is a Gift

2011-03-22T06:22:00.001-07:00

Live your life like it matters. Each and every day is your own. In life we are all offered the same ability to have the best quality of life that we choose. The events that happen in our lives may not always be pleasant, but it is how we choose to handle them that matters. The choosing makes up our quality.

The situations that we have to deal with vary widely and our outlooks on the situations make up quality. How a person chooses to view their life is where we all have the same level of choice. A person may choose anger, frustration or depression; whereas another person may choose to see the positive in all walks of life. Sometimes positivity is not surfaced, but it is there waiting to be revealed.

The people you allow to be a part of your life is also a choice. If there is a negative force in your life, dealing with it may become exhausting. This can make happiness become a vague memory instead of constant feeling. You do not have to keep the welcome mat out for negativity. This is your life and you have a choice. Difficulties may arise, overcoming may be difficult and change is not always easy. Changing the way you live your life and who you allow to be a part of it can be difficult.

Spend you energy where is most needed and in an area which will ultimately bring you the most happiness. The world is not to blame for how you feel. The challenges you must face and the way you intend to face them is a reflection of how you will surface later. If you aren’t content in your world, keep in mind that happiness is possible. Change is available and you can have a more fulfilling future.

You can enhance your entire life the same way that you can enhance an afternoon. If you want to fill your life with good feelings it can be done. If it happens in an instant, count your situation as a rarity. After you have successfully removed the negativity from your life, allow yourself time to heal. Give yourself the amount of time it takes to return to that happy you that you used to know.

Be proactive and do not be counteractive. Surround yourself with positive energies. If you notice that unpleasant people or emotions are trying to return to your world; fight back. Use the power of positivity and stand your ground. Your life, your disposition and your happiness do matter. Your contentment is your choice; take the control back. Wrap your arms around yourself. Remember that you can change the way your world makes you feel just by altering the influences you keep. You owe it to yourself to be strong and live your life like it matters, because it does matter. Your life is a gift; treat it like one.

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Harmonize / Confidence / Success

2011-03-21T08:07:00.001-07:00

If you want to reach your highest goals, you must be confident. You must believe in yourself and believe in your dreams. Embrace in the possibility that anything is possible and you can bring it into existence. You must understand that just because something hasn’t happened yet that it can happen. Take your hopes seriously, so that others will take you seriously too.

It is not natural for a person to be uncomfortable in their own skin. If this is the case then one must practice getting comfortable. It sounds insane, right? Well our actions and thoughts are partners; if they are not in conjunction with one another it is likely to cause discomfort.

To regain your confidence you may have to work to get your thoughts and actions to harmonize together. What are you doing on a regular basis? Are you being honest with yourself and others? Are you being kind and promoting outer and inner peace of mind? These types of actions allow you to feel good about yourself which promotes comfort. The opposite goes for promoting negativity, gossip and pessimistic views. You can change the way that you feel about yourself by changing how you act and react with others.

Once you have mastered the art of harmonizing your actions and thoughts your confidence will work itself out. Can you count on this? Confident people are usually brave, self-assured and assertive. If your actions and thoughts are harmonizing you will begin to feel at one with yourself. You will have naturally gained an acceptance for the actions that make your feel good. Feeling good about your person leads to confidence.

What about your goals, how can you gain confidence in that area? Before you tell the world about your ambitions think about them. Consider the pros and cons of how they will work out. Do you have it in you to pursue your dreams with perseverance? The way to figure this out is to pursue your dreams in silence for a while. Test your strengths, define your weaknesses and utilize the gifts that God has given you first. If there is a weak area then work on the weak spots. Turn weaknesses into strong flecks determination. Once you have tested and defined your goals you will feel poised and self-assured when explaining them to others.

Putting it all together and making it work for you. Let’s assume you have already harmonized your thoughts and actions, tested your ambitions and you have the confidence you need to believe in yourself and in your goals. We will also assume you have put your goals into action. There is no pause, continue to accomplish all the needed steps towards your dreams. If you want to make it happen, then see it happening in your mind each day. Concentration on the ultimate outcome, feel the emotion of accomplishment and bask in the knowledge that you have achieved. By doing this you are using the laws of attraction to will your success into existence.

It’s not be enough to just will what you want to happen, you must also continue to work towards you goal. The power of positive thinking, along with your confidence and determination will bring you great rewards. You will use the laws of attraction to make your life easier, but one must also live in order to become. Believe in yourself; it’s a natural high.

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Common and Uncommon Existence

2011-03-20T07:40:00.000-07:00

I was walking down the street yesterday and watching the people I passed. I was thinking about the common bond we all have. We all need to breathe and fuel our bodies in order to exist. I asked myself, “What about the uncommon elements?” It hit me like a fresh wind hits a fur covered animal on a hot, smug day.

Choice; that is what separates us from the masses. We may not always have the ability to choose our situations or pick the elements that surround us, but we can choose how we react to these things – to everything. Choice is the part of the personality that has the power to highlight our uniqueness. Choice and reaction separate us from the masses and make us different from those who we share the common bonds with.

Suddenly, with this thought in my conscious mind, I felt empowered. I have always known I had the ability to become the best that I could be. But the curiosities in my subconscious were satisfied with the concept that I could become more successful than the most successful person I knew of because of choice.

The idea that we all must share common bonds in order to co-exist may be unnerving. The concept that we are all alike in many ways may delight or frighten you. Let’s focus on the delight part of this equation. Everything that we think, feel and own as our personalities affects our uncommon existence. We are all born with the same basic abilities. How we choose to utilize these gifts can either make or break our spirits.

We all start in similar circumstance; most of us are born in a hospital or birthing room. After that, some are offered a better selection of elements than others, but ultimately we all have the same power to direct and redirect our thoughts. We can make them honor our elements or allow them to work against us. Thought may be our only true possession; respect the power of choice. Before you make your next decision consider the concept that choice is the ultimate uncommon element and that your choices define you.

You may be forced to taste ugly more than once in your life, how you choose to react is a decision only you can make. Reactions have consequences, and emotion comes along for that ride. You have the power to redirect your emotions, you have the power to become a better you than you have been in the past. Make your thoughts, choices and reactions count; you are the only one that has the power to control them.

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Build Your Empire

2011-03-19T07:18:00.001-07:00

The important thing to concentrate on while attempting to succeed is to see the big picture. It takes time to accomplish. While you are waiting and seeking out success remember that patience and hard work will pull you through.

Mastery isn’t accomplished overnight. You could obtain success quickly, but if the fruits of your labor aren’t sound then be prepared to have a short lived moment under the spotlight. You are not just attempting to obtain your hopes and dreams; you are building an empire for your hopes and dreams. Every task you complete on your journey will not only bring you closer to success, it will also teach and mold you. The teaching and molding will prepare you mentally. This will prepare your mind and spirit to be able to embrace your accomplishments in a way that will make them last.

If you were able to sit on top of the world without experience, doubt and a lack of knowledge would certainly cause destruction. There are rare success stories where hard work seems to be of no consequence; however those stories are rare for a reason. Be reasonable, expect to one day bask in the glory of your diligence and determination. It is more gratifying to earn success than to receive a gift.

Distractions should be kept at bay. The level of concentration you need to become successful is important. Stay organized, stay focused and embrace in the knowledge that you are well on your way to becoming the best you that you can be.

Fuel you mind, body and spirit during your journey to success. Think positive, act positive and embrace possibilities. Make your dreams become your reality by maintaining your progress. You are so close; allow hope and determination to point you into the right direction. Every man has the ability to believe, but not all men know how to use this ability.

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Quick Contest

2011-03-18T12:08:00.000-07:00

Quick Contest
I have only three magnets to give away, so I’m only going to post this once. This is the last and only time you will see this offered.

The Rules

Leave one of your favorite quotes, original or quoted in a comment under this post. Email Mesis@justbecome.com with an email address and the user name you have used to comment on this post with. The three most inspiring quotes will receive a magnet. Final judging will be on March 18, 2011. Just Become will email the winners for a ship to address. If there is no response within 24 hours of receiving the email we will move on to an alternate winner.

(We are forgiving of typos and misspelling, but it must inspire us.)

Good Luck!!!

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We would like to say thank you to all who participated
and congratulations to the winners.

Congratulations to:

Charles of Texas
Emily of New Hampshire
Roy of Maine

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Measuring Success

2011-03-18T07:35:00.000-07:00

Have a set of standards for yourself and compare your accomplishments to them. If you are constantly comparing yourself to another’s achievements you are going to make yourself insane. Live up to what your highest standard of success is and be the best you that you can be. This does not mean offer yourself breaks in your goals which promote not achieving. It means that you should not attempt to live up to someone else’s specifications.

You know what you are capable of; you know what you can accomplish. Remind yourself you are capable of achieving more than what you think you are. Challenge your abilities, test yourself and see how far you can get by doing the best that you can. Do not compare yourself with others. After all, the way that others are living their lives may be all wrong for you.

Believe in yourself, practice impressing yourself and expect things of yourself. Set a goal and then achieve it while impressing yourself by accomplishing more than you had expected. Be your own source of encouragement, it is nice to have others encourage you, but you do not want to rely on them to make your dreams happen.

There is a source within you and it can make or break you. Nurture the source, it is your encouragement, your standards and the place with your hopes and dreams are born. You have a power within and the only thing that is stopping the power from manifesting is insecurities, self- doubt and a lack of drive. Do not nurture the negative emotions, dispose of them. Make no room for negativity to camp in your soul.

Your world is your own, take control; rely on your abilities and make things happen the way the need to happen for you. Compare yourself to your specifications. Measure your success to your own set of standards. Accept encouragement from others, but do not rely on it as your only source. You have it in you; you only have to believe in order to make it come alive. Success is obtainable.

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A little bit of St Patrick’s Day History

2011-03-17T07:23:00.001-07:00

Happy St. Patrick's Day!!!!

Pirates landed in south Wales and kidnapped Patrick along with other boys and sold the children into slavery. During the six years of imprisonment Patrick had a dream he saw God. After his escape he headed to Britain and then to France. He spent twelve years training and studying in a monastery under St. Germain. Eventually he became the bishop, but he felt that Ireland was calling for his return so that he could tell them all about God.

Patrick’s spiritual autobiography is called The Confessio and it is one of the most important documents regarding this matter. The Confessio explains Patrick’s dream, his return to Britain and a letter which was given to him; “The Voice of the Irish”.

He returned to Ireland. On his way he baptized; he also brought gifts to kinglet. He would not accept gifts from anyone. Patrick was very successful at winning converts as he preached to royal families. This action disturbed the Celtic Druids. They arrested Patrick several times, but each time he was able to escape. Patrick set up churches, schools and monasteries throughout Ireland over the next twenty years. Patrick had become legendary by the end of the seventh century and widely known as St. Patrick.

The three leaf shamrock: It is believed that St. Patrick used the shamrock to explain the trinity (father, son and Holy Ghost). It is also believed that St Patrick put a curse on the snakes which drove them to the sea where they drowned.

St. Patrick died on March 17th AD 461. This is how the day was chosen to celebrate St. Patrick; we call this day St. Patrick’s Day. It is meant to celebrate the baptism of Ireland.

The Shamrock: Everything good in Ireland comes in multiples of threes.

The Leprechaun:
Near a misty stream in Ireland in the hollow of a tree
Live mystical, magical leprechauns
who are clever as can be
With their pointed ears, and turned up toes and little coats of green
The leprechauns busily make their shoes and try hard not to be seen.
Only those who really believe have seen these little elves
And if we are all believers
We can surely see for ourselves.
(Irish Blessing)

The Blarney Stone: In the Blarney Castle there is a stone in the wall called the blarney stone. It’s believed that if you kiss it you will become persuasiveness in speech. The belief is that an old lady cast a spell on the stone to thank the king who saved her from drowning.

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How to Get Focused

2011-03-16T07:38:00.000-07:00

You may have heard the advice, just do it. That is good advice, however when you are having trouble staying focused it may feel like that advice is easier said than done. Staying focused might not be one of your highlighted characteristics, but with the proper steps you can readjust a few behaviors and get focused.

Let’s talk about the advice I have just mentioned. So you have been told to just do it. Well, as I mentioned, that is good advice, but you may need more than that to get you focused. A secret I have learned is to make being focused a side thought first. Get involved in a mindless task while keeping you main goal at the front of your mind, but off to the side.

The distraction will allow you to divert mental blocks. This means that you know what you are attempting to finish or get started, but you are mindlessly doing something else. Allow your mind to wonder and your creativity should eventually introduce a different approach to what you need to focus on. This works best if it is something that you want to accomplish, but are not sure where to focus your beginning efforts.

If you are having a shortage of creativity, which is preventing you from getting focused, then you should attempt a different approach. This step involves writing. Grab a notebook and a pencil. Write down whatever you are thinking. Your thoughts may not pertain to your goal; write them down anyway. Your potential achievements should be resting in the conscious part of your mind while you are doing this exercise. Permit your mind to think freely, write down everything you are thinking. This list is just for you; fragmented thoughts are permitted. Keep in mind that the fragmented thoughts may become the big picture once you are done brainstorming.

Continue to create your list until your page is full. You are looking to have at least ten to fifteen ideas when you are finished. Once you are done you will have a map of how your subconscious and conscious minds are interacting. Ideally this list will promote an organized thought to get you focused on achieving your goal. If it doesn’t then start another list, keep your original list. You may have to combine lists until you are able to find your focus. Spend no more than 20-30 minutes doing this exercise. If after that time you haven’t found your focus then move on.

If all else fails, then just start your project. Be prepared to have multiple drafts. Do not throw anything out. These drafts may aide as a multiple result. Your focus will eventually develop and organization will arrive.

Denial has knocked on your door and told you that none of this is working and that you will never find your focus for this achievement. Denial is wrong, you have spent this amount of time on your goal therefore you have remained focused for a period of time. Your ability to focus is inside of you, you do not have to create it; you merely have to channel it into being productive.

A final thought: whatever you do, do not procrastinate. You can do this, you will do this and you will rest afterward. Be grateful that you have the motor skills to accomplish and make it happen.

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React Without Reacting

2011-03-15T06:34:00.001-07:00

With the variety of personality types you will occasionally run into conflict. You reaction could depend on whether or not the conflict escalates. The key to winning an argument is to not feel an urgency to get others to have the same opinion as you do. It is enough that you know what you believe; ask yourself why is it so important that other’s think exactly like you do. I have found comfort in knowing that I accept myself and it doesn’t really matter if other people do.

Observe first. You must observe before you speak so that you know exactly where the opinionated person is coming from. How firm are there beliefs, will they be easily offended if you don’t think like them? If you can answer yes to either of the questions, it is best just to allow that person to express themselves. Keep in mind that sometimes people believe so strongly in something it is of the utmost importance that you think like they do. Of course, you do not have to accept their beliefs; you only have to be courteous. Agree to disagree. In order to maintain a certain amount of peace you may have to agree to disagree in silence. Remind yourself the important issues are that you know how you feel and what you believe. That is what matters.

You do not have to understand another’s beliefs in order to allow them to express themselves. If you want to understand them, then ask questions. Allow the speaker to answer the questions. Only challenge their response if you are up for an argument. Most of the time I am not up for an argument, I find comfort in knowing that I don’t have to think like them and they do not have to think like me. If they are open-minded feel free to express your beliefs to them.

Enjoy the passion of the opinionated person even if you think their views are crazy. They may or may not be crazy, who are we to judge? Instead of passing judgment listen to them; admire their ability to be dedicated to a belief. Most everyone believes in something, but passion can be a rare commodity. When you get the chance to experience the passion of another enjoy it, try not to judge it.

Ultimately you have the ability to get along with anyone and everyone. The secret lies in your self-control. If you spend more time listening and less time speaking you may be pleasantly surprised to find you have acquired respect from even the most difficult people. While maintaining an open-mind you may learn a thing or two about yourself. The mental reactions you have can encourage self-discovery. While you are listening to others, listen to your mental reactions as well.

“What happens to us is not as important as how we react to what happens to us.”
-Charles Stanley

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Self-worth: It’s Your Label

2011-03-14T07:37:00.001-07:00

If you give yourself a negative label you are going to live up to it. If someone else gives you a low grade label then re-label yourself. Regardless if you are thinking name calling is wrong and labels (names) are supposed to bounce off of you and stick to someone covered in glue; positive labels bring positive results. The amount of influence you get from your positive or negative label in mentally captivating.

What happened in your childhood? What did people expect of you? Were you told you were only capable of a certain amount of achievements? Did people stroke your ego and encourage you to achieve, because achievements came easily for you? You may not have ever realized it, but those characteristics have likely had a powerful influence on your self-worth throughout your entire life. Maybe you gave yourself your own set of labels?

Where they came from is not what we are hoping to define. What is their value? If they are causing failure, lack of success, a low self-esteem or any other type of negative influence then you need to challenge them. These labels define you, but you define your labels. So just this once I want you to judge your personality. Write down on a piece of paper who you think you are. Be honest and list every characteristic that you have. Then challenge the negative traits on your list. Why are there negative personality traits on your list? You can redefine yourself and now is the time to do it.

Now stop judging yourself and promise you will only ever do it to encourage self-improvement. These negative and unattractive characteristics came from somewhere and they do not have to define you. When you attempt to challenge them be sure you are being fair with yourself. Once you have accepted a label it is your own and it will define you. If it’s not positive then take it off the list or write down the opposite.

The basic concept of this exercise is to show you that change is possible, you do not have to accept or own any negative labels, and you have choices in your life. Who you are is who you choose to be. You have the power to write the definition of your personality. You have choices. You can rid yourself of negative personality traits.

What matters is who you accept yourself to be. You must know yourself before you can accept others.

“A lot of people go through life beating themselves up the same way they were beaten up.” – Marlo Thomas

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Because This Made Me Smile:

2011-03-13T11:25:00.001-07:00

I read a post today, which I really enjoyed. I thought it was worth sharing with all of you.

Angry Birds Make Me Smile

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Overcoming Disagreeable Attributes

2011-03-13T09:18:00.001-07:00

“We either make ourselves miserable,
or we make ourselves strong.
The amount of work is the same.”
-Carlos Castaneda

Change isn’t always a bad thing. Change can bring alternative choices, different perspectives and pleasant surprises. Have an opened mind about possibilities. If you have never experienced it; you cannot judge it. Change shouldn’t be thought of as the end of the world; instead consider it a new beginning filled with possibilities. Events are not always what they appear to be.

Listen to what others have to say. If you are being closed minded you are missing out on seeing the world from a different approach, attitude and opinion. The fact that someone thinks differently from you doesn’t make it wrong. By listening to what they have to offer, you are opening the door to new experiences and possibility. Don’t just hear their words, listen to them, feel them and treat them with respect. You might be surprised at what you hear once you change the way you listen to others.

If it doesn’t feel right you should probably mix things up. When you get that nudge in your mind telling you that something feels off, it is time to reconsider how you are handling the situation. What are the odds that what you are doing isn’t ideal for the situation at hand? Is there an alternative method to resolve this feeling of not being adequate? Thinking about an alternative isn’t enough you must also try a different approach in order to change how you feel about the situation.

Life isn’t horrible; change your perspective. Life isn’t always a lazy sunny afternoon in a field of daisies, and it shouldn’t be. That would be boring. Complications can cause unwanted stress and anxiety, but it doesn’t have too max out your tolerance. Change the way you are viewing the situation. To do this, consider if your reactions are appropriate or are they simply permitting your emotions to defeat your optimism? An alternative to worry is to look at the problems head on, accept them, decide what you need to do in order to deal with them and move forward. Once you are able to accept the matter and think about solving it your energy will be focused in a different direction. You will be able to think with the other side of your brain and put your emotions on hold.

Lemons aren’t identical. No two lemons are exactly the same and no two problems are exactly the same. Treat each problem that needs to be solved with a different greeting. Remember what you have learned from previous experiences, and remember that you don’t know everything. Assuming you know everything will create problems. If you have what it takes to succeed you will also possess the abilities to enhance your knowledge.

You can feel better. You don’t have to feel bad. You are in control of your emotions. If you are having trouble making yourself feel better, then surround yourself with positivity. This may mean watching feel good movies, or reading a book that will promote your positive emotions. If the positive feelings are not knocking at your door, then seek them out. Interact with positive people.

“If you ship doesn’t come in, swim out to it” Jonathan Winters

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2011-03-12T08:32:00.000-08:00

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Growth and Success

2011-03-12T07:11:00.001-08:00

Achieving success is one of the most rewarding experiences, but to get to the highest level of goal achieving you must allow yourself room to grow. In order to evolve you must allow your energy the freedom to heighten and spread.

Calculate where your actions are headed. How can you alter you behaviors to gear them more toward achieving your goals? Do you have down time that can be utilized to encourage spiritual growth? Spiritual growths will aide you in your journey to success. A clear mind is a happy mind; organize your thoughts.

Stay focused on a purposeful resolution. This means de-clutter your world as well as your mind. The least amount of distractions the better. An organized life will promote your abilities to stay focused on your drive and determination.

Stay challenged. If you’re daily achievements are not enough to keep you from getting bored, it is time to take it up a notch. Defy your limits and test your abilities. If you do not push your strengths to their maximum potential you are holding yourself back.

Expand your skills. Being static, while not pushing yourself to achieve is going to cause a standstill or staleness in your journey to success. Try new things to move your success into new directions. Test your skills and expand your knowledge.

Don’t get discouraged, revisit your achievements. Pat yourself on the back for the tasks you have accomplished well. Ask yourself do any of my accomplishments have growth potential. If they do, then expand on them. Hard work has pay off; make it happen.

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Mental Resurrection

2011-03-11T13:56:00.001-08:00

Our friend just got online. Please check them out they are for a good cause:

Mental Resurrection

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